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Is six months to young to let him cry it out?

I take care of a 6 month old boy five days a week and it's very hard to get him to sleep, if I put him in the swing he crys or talks really loud for 15 mins then falls asleep and sleeps for 30 mins. When you try to rock him after or during a bottle he rarely goes to sleep. So I'm at a loss about getting this baby to sleep. I asked his Mom about letting him cry himself to sleep and she said it was fine and he needs to learn sometime. What do you think?

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Deb79

Asked by Deb79 at 1:24 PM on Oct. 21, 2008 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • I'm a different kind of mom, I don't think babies cry without a reason and wouln't let a baby cry himself to sleep even if the mom said so.
    Lornamay

    Answer by Lornamay at 1:30 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

  • no i dont think so but i wouldnt do it for hours prob just 15-20 mins and then check on him calm him down then leave again. I might be partial tho bc my daughter had colic and its hard to deal with the crying so i very quickly learned to ignore what didnt sound like and "important" cry
    emtmommyamanda

    Answer by emtmommyamanda at 1:37 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

  • Well, I just went downstairs to the room and picked him up and burped him he drank 12 ounces of formula within in the last two hours so he can't be hungry and now he burped so I don't know. I put some soft music on for him, I'll just keep checking on him.
    Deb79

    Answer by Deb79 at 1:38 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

  • I think it's fine as long as it doesn't go for too long. Try to get him into a routine so that nap time is always after a bottle and a diaper change or after swing time. soft music, lights low can help too.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:41 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

  • Babies do cry just to cry...sometimes. With that said, when its bedtime he's probably either crying because he doesn't want to go to sleep or he wants to be held both of which he needs to learn just can't be done all the time! When and how he should learn is up to you as a mom! Every mother will have their own opinion but you know what's best for your child. Luckily my 2 month old goes to sleep without much of a problem but he does scream his head off in the car sometimes. I let him cry it out then because if I comforted him everytime he didn't want to sit in the carseat I'd never get anywhere let alone on time!! And I know for a fact that he just doesn't want to be in the carseat because the minute I start to unbuckle him he's all smiles!! But letting your baby cry won't hurt him as long as he's not being neglected or anything and it probably won't take long before he learns to fall asleep on his own! Good luck :-)
    jessicarae787

    Answer by jessicarae787 at 2:12 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

  • Babies dont learn to self soothe themselves until they are about 2.5 years, so no i dont think letting him cry is a good option. Babies cry for a reason and its best to respond to their cries so they can feel confident they will be cared for and not just ignored.

    AnessasMommy08

    Answer by AnessasMommy08 at 2:15 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

  • It is NEVER a good idea to let a child cry it out.
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    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:22 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

  • Your not the babies mom- so you shouldn't be the one testing parental techniques on the baby! If you need the mom to work out a plan with you - great- but she should be the one to start any parenting changes- not you. If crying to sleep is the answer- the mother needs to start that for a while before you also do the technique. Sorry. It sounds like that mother is a bit lazy leaving it in your hands to impliment a new parenting technique!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:46 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

  • Is the mother doing this with him at home too? If so, then you probably should continue to implement what she wants. It's really her decision.

    As far as whether or not it's too soon, that really depends on the baby. Some are just more needy! As long as he's not hungry/wet/sick or been on his own all day, a little time to himself should be just fine. You can only do so much, and it is NOT going to scar him for life if he's left to cry a little. You said this guy is kind of talking with his cry, it doesn't sound like a desperate I'm-alone-and-so-sad kind of cry.

    Talk it over with the mother when she comes to get him. Let her know you're uncomfortable and would like to discuss it with her. Maybe she can help you determine when it's a let-him-cry versus a give-him-snuggles cry. : )
    KatieCrandall

    Answer by KatieCrandall at 4:17 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

  • I agree with the first answer. I don't believe in letting babies "cry it out." It makes them insecure and nervous. I am not about to let my son cry when I am standing right there doing nothing and I can hold him and make him feel secure. I am not so busy that I can't rock my baby to sleep. Make him play on his tummy for a while before its naptime. It will wear him out really good. Wait to rock him til he's almost falling asleep on the floor. Then he should be good.
    naturalhome

    Answer by naturalhome at 4:24 PM on Oct. 21, 2008

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