my daugheters new thing it hitting me when she dont get her way and i dont wanna spank her or anything cuz then that gives her a reason to think its ok to hit ive try putting her in time out but she just laughs at me when i do i also tell her its naughty and not nice to hit but then she just keeps hitting me....... what should i doAnswer Question
Answer by CandyHorse at 3:12 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
My DD is 2.5 and doing the same thing. The first time she did that, I grabbed her hand (forcefully, but not enough to hurt) and I said "No, hitting. That's a No No. That hurts Mommy." She tried another time or two, but after a while she got the message. She will still test me from time to time, but ever since that first time with it, she has stopped after the first "no". Now that she's getting a bit older and she raises her hand to hit, I say in a warning voice "Kaycee...what is that?" And she says "A no no!" and stops what she's doing. Good luck!
Answer by CMcLaws at 3:15 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
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Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 3:22 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
It's great that you recognize that spanking teaches kids to hit. Parents should not hit or bite kids to teach them to not hit or bite. One of the other reasons this doesn't work is that a one year old doesn't have empathy (the ability to feel things for others, some adults don't have empathy). They haven't gotten to this developmental skill.
Try to figure out if there is some kind of thing that leads up to hitting - frustration, stress, hunger. Watch for times she might hit and change the situation so she doesn't get a chance. Don't lecture about how it's naught & not nice, a 1 yo doesn't understand this. "You may not hit." Move her away from you and turn away.
Answer by Gailll at 3:23 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Here is a very good article about why saying no doesn't work with toddlers and why they tune it out
Without Spanking or Spoiling by Elizabeth Crary is a very good toddler parenting book. Here is a chart from her web site you can print out.
Answer by Gailll at 3:25 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Saying no firmly, threats, sending to other rooms, and other punishments just aren't right to use with a 1 yo. You don't want a child to behave because you are big and mean and can punish. You to teach a child up. You want your child to behave because it is the right thing to do. You can have a well behaved child without resorting to negative parenting. Just like you can have a well behaved dog without punishment or treating the dog harshly. Try to avoid the situation that leads up to negative behavior. When you see it coming, change the situation, when something does happen change situation and don't lecture. Say the rule, "you may not hit." Move away so you aren't getting hit and laughing has no audience. If other people are aroung you may have to keep your child near and watch her behavior or avoid situations with other people until she stopps hitting.
Answer by Gailll at 3:36 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
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