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how do i get my 4 year out to stopp talking back and teasing my 1 year old


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Asked by Anonymous at 4:24 PM on Sep. 26, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Who taught the 4 yr old to talk back & tease? Whoever it was tell them to stop. Kids learn by example. Teach the child the way you want the child to act.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:28 PM on Sep. 26, 2010

  • Take parenting classes, read parenting books, go to parenting conferences, get parenting course material from the library.

    Love & Limits by Elizabeth Crary is a good little discipline book. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen is a good book and some public libraries have the course. Authoritative parenting is the most effective form of parenting. You can google it and read more. Punishment doesn't teach kids to behave.


    Answer by Gailll at 4:29 PM on Sep. 26, 2010

  • Good old fashioned discipline will work, but you have to say it once and then follow through. You also have to be consistent. The main problem is lack of respect for your parental authority, and you have to learn to make that the highest priority.

    Answer by NannyB. at 4:51 PM on Sep. 26, 2010

  • People do things for a reason. Maybe she is feeling left out or like you spend more time with the 1 year old. Try carving out an hour every day of "special time" (preferably while the baby is napping). Talk to her about how you think that she might be talking back and teasing the baby because she feels left out and doesn't get enough attention. Talk to her about how you think a good solution will be "special time" (you can do crafts, a game, a movie, etc.) and that in return you'd like her to work on treating you and the baby with respect. (If you think she's capable of it, you might try asking her why she behaves in this manner and what she thinks a good solution might be). If you respect and address the reasons behind the behavior, you'll not only be teaching respect by example, you'll be teaching her how to work together to solve problems.

    Answer by ANGIE409 at 5:17 PM on Sep. 26, 2010

  • Be clear about what is acceptable and what is not. Set limits and follow through with clear consequences. A really helpful, easy to learn parenting technique is 1-2-3 Magic. Get the book ad dvd if you can!

    Answer by maggiemom2000 at 8:14 PM on Sep. 26, 2010

  • Talking back is a form of disrespect, and IMO spanking a child is loving a child. I know everyone is going to jump down my throat for this...but spanking him wil work if it is done right. There is ever any talking back or disrespect in my home.

    Answer by momof3josephs at 8:16 PM on Sep. 26, 2010

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