My son age 15 told me today he was gay, and he's been gay since age 13. How does he know? Who knows at age 13 that they're gay? I feel really shameful right now, and I'm constantly yelling at him when he ask me something. Am I wrong? Or should I feel this way? If he ask me anything, I'll yell at him all because I'm mad. I don't want him to be this way. I'm very very angry right now.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:17 PM on Sep. 26, 2010 in Teens (13-17)
He knows because he was born feeling that way. Instead of being angry with him about something he can't help, how about being proud that he felt close enough with you to tell you something so personal and accept him for who he is. He's still your son and you should still love him no matter what.
Answer by IhartU at 5:19 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Answer by lilmoosesmom at 5:21 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Answer by Lovehurts1 at 5:21 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Answer by twinsplus2more at 5:22 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Being angry is wrong because this is something that he can not help being, he didn't choose this to piss you off, he told you because this is who he is, and as his parent thought you could support him. Regardless of how you feel about the lifestyle this is still that same little boy you gave birth to and loved, nothing should change, and being angry at him for this is, is really quite cruel. Some people know a lot younger than 13, some know before puberty hits. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed right now other than your attitude.........
Answer by older at 5:22 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Answer by delilahsmom1177 at 5:23 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Answer by luvmygrlz at 5:23 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
You just found out so give yourself time to adjust and accept this. It most have taken a lot of courage for your son to confide in you if he knew this would make you unhappy. I think it's okay to mourn the idea of what we wanted for our children, but then we have to move on and love them for who they are. Good luck to you.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 5:25 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Answer by hendimom3 at 5:26 PM on Sep. 26, 2010
Perhaps going to a support group for parents of gay kids would help you? or counseling?
Answer by Gailll at 5:27 PM on Sep. 26, 2010