My older brother raped me almost every day for about a year when I was 9-10 yrs old. He was found out & convicted of child rape and went to juvenile detention then foster care for a year. When he got out everyone told me it was my Christian duty to forgive him and move on, and that I shouldn't break up the family. I always felt betrayed that he is still part of the family and I feel pressured to be around him when I don't want to be. Even though we are all adults now this has been painful for me ever since it happened. Would you be able to remove the offending child out of the family to protect your child who was victimized? Is it unrealistic for me to think that they should have taken my side?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:22 PM on Oct. 21, 2008 in General Parenting
I don't think so at all. If you don't want to be around him (and who would?) they should never expect you too. His christian duty as a brother was to love and protect you, not violate you. Just because he went to jail and found Jesus doesn't make him someone you would want to be around.
I am actually disgusted that your family wouldn't support you. I don't think I could look at my son if he did that to my daughter. It's not fair that you are just expected to get over it. Not to mention, in your shoes I certainly wouldn't want my children around him.
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