Our marriage did take a lot of strain with our new addition. Lack of sleep makes both of us very edgy. We also had huge blow-ups when it came to nappy changes, feeding... caring for her in general. Throw in some controlling, inconsiderate inlaws and you have a recipe for disaster. For us it's only getting better now (6months down the line). He had trouble caring for something that didn't give anything back. She's sleeping better now and she recognises, smiles and coos at him - he loves that. Note I said it's Getting Better, we're a long way from where we used to be. Sometimes I consider raising her on my own. The best advice I can give you is to just stick it out. It does get better. It's a huge adjustment for both of you. The payoff is awesome. I sometimes watch him with her now and my heart just melts. He's slowly easing into the "daddy-role" that I hoped for. Don't give up and Good luck.
at 8:01 AM on Sep. 28, 2010