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DF keeps mentioning a female friend from work.

I know who she is, we all worked together,, i dnt see it being her , its him,almost everyday when he comes home, he says something about her.She just got married this Sat n she does tell him about the problems that she has w/her now hubby, so he would always ell me here hubby is in the Military they were together fro 9 months and he proposed last month & they got married this week, hubby n i both thought he was doing it to get more money, so hubby goes n tells her she needs to think about marring this guy, i told him thst she is a grown woman and she will learn on her own if this is the case. i told him that he needs to butt out of it, well he doesnt want to, yesterday she was telling him that his wedding band cracked, well he goes n tells her that this was a sign, im like wtf, why does he keep insisting for her to realize that this guy isnt the one, im now starting to think he likes her, am i wrong here for thinking that?


Asked by Anonymous at 10:53 AM on Sep. 28, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (5)
  • What everyone else has said is a strong possibility... but there is another possibility as well....

    MAYBE.... he just thinks of her like a kid sister and feels protective of her in that way... and MAYBE, it IS on the other girl.
    MAYBE... she sees his affection for her and takes advantage of it. MAYBE, the other girl is playing games with your DF.

    Either way, I would definitely encourage you to have a good talk WITH him... not AT him... WITH him.

    DON'T "CONFRONT" HIM, as that will almost guarantee a shut down from him and an argument between the two of you, I don't think you want that either, but instead try simply asking him why he feels so protective of her... why he's so worried about whether or not she gets hurt... and if she DOES get hurt... what happens then?

    But TRY to approach the subject from the possibility that he DOES see her more as a KID SISTER rather than a potential piece of tail / lover.

    Answer by Crimsonia at 12:44 PM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • Sounds like your DH has more on his mind that just friendly help. He does need to butt out. It sounds like he is trying to get them to split.
    My EH did the same thing and they ended up cheating with each other.
    I would stop it now before you have more to worry about.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 10:57 AM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • sounds like h i placing himself as her shoulder to cry on, her advisor, her knight in shining srmor, her atturnative to her "bad" husband
    not a good sign

    Answer by fiatpax at 11:00 AM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • Yea it does, im going to confront him about it, well not confront him but ask him straight out what is going on, im not one to be played with, her wedding was this past Sat n we didnt go, i worked that day & got out a little late but we had enough time to attend the wedding and so when i got home he said we werent going because he knew i was tired, i told him i was but we could still go but he sd no, now im starting to think maybe he didnt want to go because he didnt want to see her married and all

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 11:03 AM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • I agree with fiatpax answer completely, so won't repeat confront him, this is not good or respectful to you.


    Answer by zbee at 12:08 PM on Sep. 28, 2010