We have been married for 5 yrs now and have a 3 yr old.I work 3 nites a week graveyard shift because its good pay, I stayed home after our dd was born. So I stay at home other than 3 times a week, we do okay on just his salary, but for extras for us i work, clean, cook and care for our dd.he stays on me to budget my check and tells me exactly how to spend what check I get and how much he wants me to put back a week.Also ask why does he always have to pay the bills and not me.I do try to be a good wife,Mom and work part time for us too.Left up to him all he would have to do is go to work 8-5 desk job and come home and sit, hes done but wants dinner done, use my money for his bills take care of everything.Calls me from work to make sure im cleaning something.I was young and naive when we first married but now growin up..what should a wife do with a man like this? Wants control over everything.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:45 PM on Sep. 28, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by lovebdus at 5:48 PM on Sep. 28, 2010
Answer by lilmoosesmom at 5:49 PM on Sep. 28, 2010
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Answer by dullscissors at 5:54 PM on Sep. 28, 2010
..to make sure the family/household is always in good condition. sometimes there is some give&take..but its a healthy give&take..not a controlling one. you need to find your voice and tell him you won't be commandeered like that. call his bluff.
Answer by dullscissors at 5:55 PM on Sep. 28, 2010
Answer by MTM at 5:59 PM on Sep. 28, 2010
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Answer by Moms_Angels1960 at 6:10 PM on Sep. 28, 2010
Answer by bvannkissy at 6:17 PM on Sep. 28, 2010
I've been in several controlling relationships, and I know it's no picnic. What you need to do is take control of yourself. Tell your husband that you're not a child and can make decisions all on your own. If he doesn't respect that and let you be an adult then he's not worth staying with. Men who want all the control are insecure, and therefore control their women to make themselves feel more important. I'm sure you love him, but he needs to stop telling you what to do. You're his wife, not his child. Maybe some marriage councelling would be a good idea.
Answer by GenieBean at 6:19 PM on Sep. 28, 2010
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