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Conrolling or Concern?

Does a husband have the right to tell his wife what she can and cant eat? Even if it is out of concern for her health? Like telling her she cant eat fast food or that she uses to much sugar in her coffee?

This was a debate on the radio show I listen to in the morning!


Asked by mrsmamaj at 8:11 PM on Sep. 28, 2010 in Just for Fun

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Answers (10)
  • No one should tell you what you can and can't eat because you are aware of your health issues and you know what's good and bad for you. It's up to you to make the right decision to take care of yourself. If you know you have high cholesterol and diabetes and you're eating a big burger from McDonald's, you are fully aware of the damage it can do to your already bad health. Only you can make the decisions to live your life healthy and take care of yourself. This post reminds me a lot of my mom. She's diabetic, has high blood pressure, high cholesterol, thyroid disease and a number of other things but yet she still eats lots of sugary and fatty things. My dad is constantly telling her "you shouldn't eat that" but she ignores him. He can express his concern for her, but he can't yank things out of her mouth and such.

    Answer by poptart0325 at 9:23 AM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • He can if he has a death wish! (LOL- JK- no irrate spousal abuse responses please)

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 8:15 PM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • Controlling, unless she has health problems or issues then it falls under concern


    Answer by lilmoosesmom at 8:11 PM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • If she has a major health issue and is denial, yeah the other spouse is within his rights. (like a diabetic eating sugar) It effects the other spouse just as much if not more than the spouse in denial since the other spouse will be caring for the denial spouse or even raising their kids as a single parent if denial spouse dies from their choices. But if there is no major health issues at play... then other spouse is just being a controling @sshole.

    Answer by karamille at 8:21 PM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • NO!!!

    Answer by LiLJeni at 8:24 PM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • What if she is pregnant? With no other health issues?

    Comment by mrsmamaj (original poster) at 8:24 PM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • NO!!!

    Answer by MTM at 8:44 PM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • If she's over the age of about 18, then he can suggest, ask nicely, even be stern, but he really can 't control what she eats unless he keeps her in a cage and feeds her himself.

    Answer by ceallaigh at 9:18 PM on Sep. 28, 2010

  • I think the man can "remind" you not to eat something that is bad especially if you are diabetic. But it can wear thin I would think. Getting reminded of how to take care of yourself can be really annoying b/c you are a grown woman.

    Answer by babybutastink at 9:53 PM on Sep. 28, 2010


    Answer by sarasmommy777 at 9:57 PM on Sep. 28, 2010