Structure, structure, structure. Create a check list sheet on the fridge. Use pictures if he is not reading yet. Put all the things on there he needs to do in a day. i laminated mine at staples and bought magnets for him to place over the boxes as he completed the task. It helps him know what he needs to do. Like brush your teeth, pick up toys, etc,.... I also run him out a couple of times a day. Before preschool he runs sprints in the back yard and again when he gets home. And maybe again int he evening if he gets too crazy. We also talk early in the day about what we will be doing that day, since he doesn't deal well with spontainous plans. I also use a kitchen timer that he can see counting down to help him transition from one activity to another. Like when the timer goes off, so does the TV, or its time to go to bed, or whatever. We have had a huge drop in meltdowns since we have implamented these changes.
at 10:09 PM on Sep. 28, 2010