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How long should you wait for him to realize what he had was good and for him to choose who he wants?

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mrs.stephanie

Asked by mrs.stephanie at 5:07 PM on Oct. 22, 2008 in Relationships

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  • if he has to actually decide. you shouldn't wait a minute for him. your man should know who is the one for him before leading you on. don't even consider him as a prospect

    KristaRene

    Answer by KristaRene at 5:10 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

  • I think that if he's with someone else, he has already made his choice. It's sad, and it sucks, but the sooner you accept it, the easier it is to let go.
    christyg

    Answer by christyg at 5:13 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

  • Um you don't you let him regret it while you've moved on to someone that actually cares enough about you to keep his dick to you or himself
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:20 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

  • if he is not with you then he has chosen what he wants and obviously he didn't think you were all that since he is with someone else. he will always be a loser. you better off.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 5:38 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

  • if he has already left you then its pretty much made up his mind usually theres no oh i miss what i had they usually leave for areason
    iloveyall2008

    Answer by iloveyall2008 at 5:59 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

  • WAKE UP!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:17 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

  • Uh... you don't wait. You just leave and find someone else who doesn't NEED time to ponder, someone who KNOWS that you're good and you're what he wants. Fuck the other guy!
    MarlyeGirl

    Answer by MarlyeGirl at 7:32 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

  • DO NOT WAIT FOR HIM!! You need to assume that he will choose ( no matter how painful) that he doesn't choose to be with you. Really look to your own happiness, surround yourself with a support group of family and friends and make the most of it. Like he never existed. Buy yourself a cute new outfit and get all dolled up call your bff's for a night on the town. Celebrate you and forget about him. If it's you he "decides" he wants then you can decide that for yourself when the time comes. Make him know that your world doesn't revolve around him and you are just fine without him. To some guys that's a big turn on.
    clueless1972

    Answer by clueless1972 at 8:31 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

  • I think that whenever you allow a man to do that to you, you are inviting a world of hurt. If he "chooses" you, this will go on over and over again for the remainder of your lives together. My dad gave me a great bit of advice when I was younger : "People will only do to you what you allow them to " (loses in the translation a bit) but the message is true enough. Either you gather your strength and tell this guy to buzz off, or you are opening up yourself to a very bad experience. No man who truly is worth the effort is going to leave you hanging while he decides who he wants to be with. Respect yourself enough not to endow this guy with that kind of power over you. You deserve much better.

    hibicent

    Answer by hibicent at 10:29 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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