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My husband... ! (very personal personal question that may make you uncomftorable) adult content

He keeps asking me for anal sex....
I tell him I dont want to do it
he asks me why
I say cause I just dont want to
he says why not I really want it
I say cause I just dont there is no particular reason other then I dont want to
he keeps asking like every night
what should I do?
what have you done?
would you do it if you have not?
if you have was it enjoyable?
I had never thought that this was even an option until he spoke with me about trying it..... AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGGGG am gonna loose it really soon if he keeps trying to and asking me if he can do it!

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:28 PM on Sep. 29, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (16)
  • first of all...thats very disrespectful..
    if you dont want to, then dont!! i once was dating a guy who kept asking me all the time to, everytime i said no..then one day he asked me, and i replied with "are you gay"? and he got all defensive and mad saying "no, why would i be" and i said "well, you seem very sure that you wana shove your dick in my ass, so i just thought......." lol, he wasnt to impressed with me after that..LOL..but he never did ask again..
    alexis_06

    Answer by alexis_06 at 3:26 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • Don't do anything you're not comfortable with just to give in to his urges.
    Butts are exit only!
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 2:30 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • It really doesn't matter why you don't want to do it. Him constantly hounding you about it is disrespectful. It's your body and what you do with it is your choice, not his. Some women are into it and some are not. I personally have no interest in trying it. My husband and I discussed it once several years ago and that was the end of it.
    JulieJacobKyle

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 2:32 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • Personally I wouldn't do it and haven't. My husband has known since day 1 that "it is an exit only". Its a personal choice. I know some people that love it and some that hate it and some that are like me and wouldn't do it even once.
    justduckie_mom

    Answer by justduckie_mom at 2:31 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • Don't do anything you don't want to do. I haven't, but my husband has never asked. I'm not sure if I would, I've never really thought about it.
    collegemom123

    Answer by collegemom123 at 2:31 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • If you dont want to dont do it. Or tell him you will do it to him first and see if he likes that.
    Alisim

    Answer by Alisim at 2:34 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • He's sounding a bit immature (sorry) and very disrespectful to you. It's your body and you are obviously uncomfortable with it so he should hush up about it. Hounding you every day like a kid is only going to make you less likely to try it, if ever. Let him know this firmly. I think my husband has asked once or twice, but after that he has decided that it wont happen unless I say we can try it. I dont see it happening any time soon, really. Good luck hon!
    duckigrrl

    Answer by duckigrrl at 2:53 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • Trust your instincts on this. You know you. If it's not for you with no curiosity, there's your reason, enough said. He is being a jerk for behaving that way. and looks like he is harassing you with intent to win regardless of how it makes you feel. That is not winning in a relationship, that is bullying. I've know women with irreparable damage done physically for going there when they were just trying it for him and they/he didn't know what they were doing. He's being verbally abusive. get him an anal toy to play with if you want, make your rules up if you want to watch or only on his alone time.
    freyjawire

    Answer by freyjawire at 3:08 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • so he wants to do it TO you
    or
    he wants you to do it TO him
    ??

    hey, it could be the 2nd one, there are women out there with this problem (at least that i know of)

    if 2nd one, I can give you tons of advice, if 1st one, all these other woman can cover the subject very nicely i am sure

    BUTTS ARE EXIT ONLY...I love this, in fact i used to say this before "him"
    now i just say "Gross" and i say it alot

    thanks all
    have a nice day
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 2:34 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • If you dont want to dont do it. Or tell him you will do it to him first and see if he likes that.
    ==============================================
    i would advise NOT to do this
    sounds funny, but what if he LIKED IT!!
    then you will have a real bad problem
    not that yours is not bad now, but do not make it worst by making him want to give to you and receive

    do not do it to him!!!
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 3:07 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

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