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what is our next step?

DH has joint legal custody of his daughter. He is supposed to get her for 3 months every summer and every other xmas. He is paying over $800 in child support every month. The last time he heard from his daughter was december of 2008. His ex moved and turned her phone off so there is no way of contacting her. He has called her phone numerous times to see if it is turned back on, but no luck. Now he is being deployed for 7 months. We would like to try to find her when he gets back and try and get costody of her. What would our first steps be? Do I try to call her phone while DH is deployed so we have a paper trail of our attempts to contact her? Does it matter if I try? or does it just matter if its DH trying?

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:16 PM on Sep. 29, 2010 in Relationships

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  • If he pays childsupport, someone knows her address, the money goes somewhere.
    Go to the court and file charges against her for volating a court order. A custody order is a court order and she can be charged.

    Answer by layh41407 at 7:21 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • bumpHere's a bump for ya mama!!!


    Answer by bvannkissy at 7:22 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • the govenment takes the money from his paycheck and sends it to the state of virginia. They wont give him her address.

    Answer by MommyRat at 7:34 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • If there is a custody order in place, she can be held in contempt for moving and not providing visitation let alone contact information. Check with the state where the custody was ordered, you may need to file and it may take longer than he has before his deployment.

    Answer by travzmom at 9:00 PM on Sep. 29, 2010

  • he should have already filed for contempt when he was unable to contact after 60 days! He needs and has to file these charges before he leaves or he can loose his already structured visitations

    Answer by 4_28_bbboy at 2:11 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

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