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In your opinion -- is he still a father ( and was she right)

My brothers girlfriend was talking with me about my daughter ( basically asking about her birth) ... I told her that the guy who got me pregnant was mentally abusive and couldnt make up his mind if he wanted to be in my daughters life while I was pregnant, he then seen her once when she was 3 weeks old, signed over his rights... my now husband has adopted her, we have been married since she was 1 year old ( my daughter is now about to be 6 ) .....and I said that he recently tried to add me on facebook... and SHE said that I should have added him because he is still her father and he has a right to atleast see pictures of his little girl... GIVE ME A BREAK !!!

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:23 AM on Sep. 30, 2010 in Parenting Debate

Answers (16)
  • nope, he signed over rights

    Answer by keisha613 at 10:25 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • He was a sperm donor, not a father. He signed away his rights, and isn't entitled to "play dad" after all of this time.

    Answer by Scuba at 10:26 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • imo
    you are correct
    and she
    has no fing business putting in her 2 cents

    give you a break- yes you have a break on this one 100%
    no facebook friend thing- no way
    maybe send his parents a picture at christmas-maybe
    are his parents around? have they wanted to be grandparents at all?

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:26 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • hell no. im kind of in your shoes, only my daughter is 3 not 6, and my husband hasnt gone through the adoption process yet, but i certainly would not add him if he requested me on facebook. i keep it private on purpose, to keep people like him from knowing my business. your husband has adopted her, her bio dad signed over his rights, he has no business knowing what's on your facebook page or even looking at pictures of your kid. he removed HIMSELF from the picture!

    Answer by tnm786 at 10:26 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • I just want to say, don't add him.

    And you're lucky he gave up his rights, I wish my ex husband would so my husband could adopt my son officially......ex comes around just enough to spend a little money on my son to buy his love, then leaves for 3 months before returning for another weekend. He's coming tomorrow and I'm dreading it. He is such a jerk

    Answer by Mom2Jack04 at 10:28 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • Nope. He gave up his rights. He basically said I don't want her. Don't listen to her.

    Answer by KARRIEMARIE at 10:30 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • No, he signed his rights away. I wouldnt add him if I was in your shoes. It's not like you just said get lost and ran away with your daughter, it was his choice.

    Damn facebook.

    Answer by Melissa15 at 10:33 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • He chose not to have "rights".

    Answer by justnancyb at 10:42 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • He may be her father, but he is not her "Daddy". You husband now is.

    Answer by BrandonsMom1000 at 10:47 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • Uhm no. He signed over those rights.

    Answer by reigndrops12689 at 11:01 AM on Sep. 30, 2010

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