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How would you handle this?

I have a friend who has a disability. She understands quite a bit, but she's fairly young for her age. I dont know that she will ever marry, but she is seeing young adults younger than she is marrying and having children. She's now obsessed with having a baby. I know her family would feel she has no business even thinking of having a child. I'm not sure how to talk with her about this at all.


Asked by duckigrrl at 5:55 PM on Sep. 30, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (6)
  • Is she self-supporting? Does she get assistance thru a county Developmental Disabilities organization? Does she even have a steady bf? Let her talk about her dreams. It's a dream most women have whether they have a disability or not. Encourage her to volunteer at a local hospital that allows people to come into the NICU to just sit & hold babies & rock them, so she can get her "baby fix". If it does happen, then continue to be a good friend & be there for her. B/C like most new moms, she'll have a lot of questions.

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:01 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • I agree as well. Let her have her dreams because we all have this dream, as young girls. Maybe it is her way of coping with her disablity. In any case, it sounds like she wants a prince charming with the happily ever after ending. I feel that just because she has a disability, she is still a woman...

    Answer by LovingUs at 7:25 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • It really depends on what kind of disability she has and if she is capable of understanding exactly why she shouldn't have children....

    Answer by SarahLeeMorgan at 6:01 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • No, she lives with family and has no job, and no steady boyfriend. She has a friend who she has decided is her boyfriend. I think she would like the idea of volunteering at a hospital nursery.

    Comment by duckigrrl (original poster) at 6:11 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • I agree with MrsMom, let her dream, and guide her where and when you can. You are a very good friend and person to be concerned with your friend.


    Answer by zbee at 6:17 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • Thank you, ladies. I appreciate all your help.

    Comment by duckigrrl (original poster) at 7:56 PM on Sep. 30, 2010