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has anyone ever read the book: "DEATH FROM CHILD ABUSE AND NO ONE HEARD" the true story of URSULA SUNSHINE ASSAID...i must confess not a page did i read without having tears coming down my face...i cried so much it was a total heart breaking story of her last wk alive...she was abused so badly at age 5 yes only 5yrs old in the hands of her STEPFATHER and her damn mother did is available at for about $25.
i am an active member in the child abuse prevention in my community and i feel like one needs to educate ourselves not be blinded to the signs...i hate child abuse of any kind but like i said OCTOBER IS DV and CA awareness month...

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Asked by iNk-FrEaK at 6:23 PM on Sep. 30, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • This is the story of me only I didn't die people knew but none of them said anything about my father. No one is blind to the signs just to the real people doing it. There are people so good at it you never know.

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 6:28 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • No never heard of it but we have a child abuse case going on that just makes you cry over it they put tacks in his feet and hit him repeatedly, broke his ribs threatened to cut off his penis pull hair out of his head qouldn'tlet him eat made him watch them as they did. I am still not sure who all did what I know it was an Aunt and Uncle and the Aunts daughter and her ex husband so sad

    Answer by Moms_Angels1960 at 6:28 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • It is something every parent needs to read. It is a hard to read book, but it will change you in so many ways.

    Answer by jshimmy at 7:25 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • too sad.

    Answer by mywonderyears at 9:36 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • Unfortunately, there are many cases like this one. I will definitely check it out though. Thanks for sharing.


    Answer by JeremysMom at 9:37 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • rsula Sunshine Assaid (named so by her father, so that her initials would spell USA.) Ursula was living in Florida with her Mother and her Boyfriend. McDougall *the boyfriend* and Susan Assaid *the mother* prevented Ursula from eating or drinking for a week, and while Susan stood by, McDougall beat the girl and killed her. Not only was little Ursula denied food and water, she was also denied sleep. McDougall would force the poor child to march around the house for hours with soiled underwear on her head, the only sustinence she was given was "soap sandwiches" (two peices of bread with sliced bar soap in between).

    Comment by iNk-FrEaK (original poster) at 10:08 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • He would force her to sit outside starting in the early morning, without water or food, not allowing her to go to the bathroom, and if Ursula happened to wet herself, he would beat her, and then she would have to march again, saying the alphabet repetively. If she were to hesitate, or miss a letter, another beating would ensue. Finally, McDougall beat little Ursula to death one night, while her mother stood by and did nothing. After she died the put her in a duffle bag and stuck weights in there and tossed her small body into a drainage pond.

    Comment by iNk-FrEaK (original poster) at 10:09 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • When neighbors would ask where Ursula was, her mother would say she was with her father, it came out later that the small child was murdered at the hands of that evil man, while her mother, the neighbors, and school officials did and said nothing.

    Comment by iNk-FrEaK (original poster) at 10:09 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • McDougal was found guilty of second-degree murder and sentenced to 34 years in prison; Susan served five years of a 15-year sentence for manslaughter. Twice since 1992, when the possibility has arisen that McDougall might be allowed to leave prison, Florida has tightened the rules governing the early release of convicts.

    Comment by iNk-FrEaK (original poster) at 10:09 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

  • The Russ & Bo Show, a talk-radio program broadcast in the evening over WTKS-FM in Orlando, Florida, usually concerns itself with "women and beer," as one of the hosts, Russ Rollins, puts it. But on Sept. 25, the show addressed the subject of child abuse, commemorating the death exactly 14 years earlier of Ursula Sunshine Assaid. When she was five years old, Ursula was tortured and killed by her mother's boyfriend, Donald McDougall. The murder still causes bitterness in Orlando, and on the anniversary, the Russ & Bo Show devoted five hours to it. Between phone calls, Rollins graphically described the suffering Ursula endured. Building to an emotional peak at 8:50, the time of her death, he then called for a moment of silence. As Rollins told TIME, "Dead air on a radio program is strong."

    Comment by iNk-FrEaK (original poster) at 10:10 PM on Sep. 30, 2010

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