I need some advice ladies - am I just over sensative or do I have a point to stand on?
Recently my "bff" for lack of better words, has made some decisions that I do not particularly agree with. I have given her my opinion and she knows she's made a mistake, but regardless of her lifestyle decisions, I still love her dearly and support her no matter what. She has recently moved out with her 9 year old and 2 1/2 year old and is going through a nasty divorce. While her actions are the main reason for the divorce, what drove her to stray is her husbands lack of interest, lack of support and aggresivness towards her and her 9 year old son (from a different father).
the problem I am facing is in my OWN marriage. it seems my husband has decided to take her actions and hold them against me, treating me as if I was the one that made these decisions. He says I'm just as bad because I "support it". It does no matter what I sa
Answer by Jademom07 at 7:34 PM on Sep. 30, 2010
Answer by Melbornj at 7:39 PM on Sep. 30, 2010
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Answer by Jademom07 at 7:46 PM on Sep. 30, 2010
Answer by Nikobaby2010 at 7:49 PM on Sep. 30, 2010
You really should not "support" someone no matter what they do. When someone does something that is really wrong that person should own it and change it so that you can continue to have the same closeness. When a person fails to do that, you need to take a step back and let them sort out their own life on their own. Your husband should not have called you names, but I can see why he's upset with you. You shouldn't support bad behavior because it is like saying it's OK. Your words should line up with your actions. Maybe your DH is doing what you're doing so he seems like a hypocrite by calling you out. that's messed up, but two wrongs don't make a right.
Answer by SylviaNCali at 8:02 PM on Sep. 30, 2010
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 8:17 PM on Sep. 30, 2010