My DD 16, wants to go to movies, mall, bowling, get gifts for all her friends, get coffee/books, etc., and she'll need car insurance soon, but we are having a hard time with shelling out for all this right now. She got a job, but now wants to quit because she says she doesn't like it and working Friday afternoon till7 and Saturday till 5 is cutting in to her volunteer time and down time. She has a boyfriend, who she sees maybe after work Fri or Sat, or Sundays...but he wants more of her(and now all of a sudden, his friends, another couple, too) She's been venting to them, but I want to instill that she is responsible for some of her financial stuff, not quitting to hang out with teens...who are mostly unsupervised from what we can tell. Would you tell her she can quit, but forgo the $ extras, and only if she maintains the extra curricular stuff like volunteering, clubs, etc? Tell her to find a different job?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:02 AM on Oct. 1, 2010 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by MrsLeftlane at 10:06 AM on Oct. 1, 2010
I would tell her to make sure she has another job lined up before quitting her existing job. Also, tell her you won't be footing the bill for car insurance so if she is looking forward to driving it will give her an incentive to keep working. But also make sure that her school grades aren't falling because of work.
Answer by musicmom08 at 10:13 AM on Oct. 1, 2010
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Answer by bcauseimthemom at 10:33 AM on Oct. 1, 2010
If you can't afford to give her the money for these things then she can earn it or do without.We are fortunate and have been able to give an allowance and pay for insurance but they are expected to live with in their budget.For our daughter once she turned 16 we even gave her a budget for clothing because we wanted to be able to pay for college also.Not quite that bad but there is a limit what ever it may be and that is just how it goes.I would encourage her to find a job she likes but if she chooses to have less money let her make that choice.
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