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A few decades ago it was considered a sin and very wrong to have premarital sex. We still think that it is wrong to have extramarital sex, but it is slowly becoming accepted.

How can we make changes in what is right and what is wrong.


Asked by tootoobusy at 2:01 PM on Oct. 1, 2010 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • Archbishop Fulton Sheen once said, "if you don't behave as you believe, you will end by believing as you behave."

    Your statement is a very good observation of this truth in action.

    Premarital sex still is a sin, no matter how many people participate in it or permit it. Each person must chose between measuring morality according to God, who is unchanging, or according to ones own ego and/or society, which is forever changing.

    Answer by flatlanderjenn at 10:22 PM on Oct. 1, 2010

  • We become immune to what is wrong. Just because it is socially accepted doesnt mean it is right.


    Answer by ria7 at 2:06 PM on Oct. 1, 2010

  • And before that point and time in history. Premarital sex and sex outside of marriage were both acceptable. And in some socieites expected and encouraged.

    Societies views of sex change overtime. It varies throughout history. And it will continue to change and vary throughout history.

    There is no universal "right & wrong" to change or influence really. Sex isn't viewed the same way by everyone. For some sex is subjected and ruled by morality. For some sex and morality have nothing to do with one another. For some sex is strictly about love and committment. For some sex and love are not mutually exclusive.. etc..etc.

    Answer by pixie_trix at 2:05 PM on Oct. 1, 2010

  • A few decades ago both were considered wrong... However look back 500 years and things were a little different. It wasn't seen as uncommon or wrong to have sex without being married or to have extra marital affairs... In fact for the "upper classes" it was seen as the norm. Go back even further - 3000 years... There was no question about was it right or wrong, extra marital sex, premarital sex, it was all considered normal. There were only a select few civilizations which had different beliefs, the majority of societies didn't have these notions of right or wrong til much much later... So, over the course civilization, we have actually only been under these beliefs for a minimal amount of time. And what it comes down to today isn't what is or isn't accepted by society, it's what is or isn't accepted by the individual. Which is how it always should have been, and how it used to be, maybe we are just getting back to our roots.

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 2:29 PM on Oct. 1, 2010

  • Well one must also keep in mind the reasons why it was a sin back in the day which derives from the notion that women were seen as property and sex before marriage was seen as "soiling the goods". In today's society women are seen more as equals rather than property with the capability of making decisions for themselves as opposed to having them made for them. Thus the decision of sex before marriage is determined by the individuals involved and not societal views of "damaging the merchandise".

    Answer by KristiS11384 at 2:07 PM on Oct. 1, 2010

  • id say it is widely accepted in our culture. all i know to do is teach my child what is right and wrong. and hope she learns from my mistakes instead of her own.

    Answer by jennifer588 at 2:04 PM on Oct. 1, 2010

  • It seems society seems to go from one extreme to another. A strict generation can cause people to abandon those rules and become very lenient. A future generation may realize the old rules had a place and become more strict. It is a swing back and forth.


    Answer by ria7 at 2:08 PM on Oct. 1, 2010

  • Oh wow! Deep question! True but deep. Maybe the male/female ratio plays a part in things. With War, and Prison, Addiction and other distractions, the pickin's can be slim! And timing is everything too. There is also a social ignorance that makes humans do whatever they want to do when they want to do included...and that is what has become accepted.

    Answer by QueenAdeela at 2:09 PM on Oct. 1, 2010

  • Now I still think it prudent for individuals to use wise choices when engaging in sexual activities, especially those outside of marriage in order to protect themselves both against physical diseases but emotionally as well.

    Answer by KristiS11384 at 2:11 PM on Oct. 1, 2010

  • Concepts of right and wrong change all the time in societies, across cultures and across times. In Biblical times, polygamy was a commonly acceptable form of marriage... in present times, it's a minority practice that many take issue with. In Biblical times, it was commonplace for a woman to marry her BIL should her husband die. Now.... not so much. In Biblical times it was common to marry in the teen years.... thus leaving little time for premarital sex to take place anyhow. In our society, the agmarry has been gradually getting older. Morality about marriage and sex has changed over time... yet if you read the Kinsey reports from the 1950s you see that people were still engaging in premarital sex even at a time when it was more taboo than it is now. Social mores change all the time... whether there is a divine power with unchanging ideals about human morality is something that everyone has to decide for themselves.

    Answer by Freela at 2:45 PM on Oct. 1, 2010