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I got together with a man that I thought was great in October of last year. I found out a couple of days ago that he is still with his last girlfriend too. I was also recently asked out by a man that is my best friend. I love my bf so I don't know wht to do. SHould I give him a chance to leave her or leave him and go out with my friend? Any suggestions would be great.

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:19 PM on Oct. 2, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Honestly, it's been a year already....he isn't leaving her. Go out with the friend. Some of the very best relationships started out as friendships.

    Answer by slw123 at 1:21 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • Go out with your friend! Dump that jerk who has lied to you for a whole year! Lying is not good in a relationship, AND he cheated.. Double whammy! Dump him

    Answer by firethearson at 1:21 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • I would get rid of the 2 timer. If he hasn't left her - and lied to you for a year! he's going to keep doing what he's been doing. I would get rid of the cheater and spend some time with myself, heal, and then think about what I want and what is best for my child/ren. If your friend is serious, he will give you some time.

    Answer by balagan_imma at 1:23 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • if you love your bf, then you should know the answer - but, how do you feel about your bf still loving his past gf??? i think there should be some communication going on between the two of you - something doesn't seem right here!!!

    Answer by kaysimon132461 at 1:24 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • Oh gosh....if he was wither her while he was with you, i would say he has little respect for you. You really need to understand, that men who cheat like that have a VERY hard time learning to stop. It's different if they get real drunk & maybe have a one night stand (which is still very messed up) But, he is actually in two relationships at one time. That goes WAAAAY beyond a drunken night full of mistakes. He is sober & consciously cheating on you & her at the same time. He only cares about himself & if you think he will change for you, than you got another thing coming. If it was just a one night stand, i think giving him another chance may work. But, the fact that he was two timing the both of you shows great disrespect & it shows that he is most important to himself. Sometimes, guys cheat & realize they made a big mistake & learn a lot from it. It sounds like this guy is a professional cheater....move on sister, move on!

    Answer by samurai_chica at 1:25 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • If he hasnt left her by now he isnt going to. You should leave.

    Answer by Misteh at 1:28 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • I was with a man for 3 years that had a girlfriend. They always argued and he complained about her constantly and he never left her. I finally moved on. When I think about what kind of relationship I would have had with this man had he ever left his girlfriend, I know I would have never trusted him. How do you know this man you're with wouldn't do the same thing to you?

    Answer by MomMom23 at 1:33 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • He isn't worth it...theres a reason he was with her, and he is probably going to do this kind of thing again even if he breaks up with her, pm me if you'd like, I know from personal experience.

    Answer by Mortiferouslatt at 1:46 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • leave, once a cheater always a cheater,,,

    Answer by tjnorton at 3:42 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • the reality is that he has had a chance to leave her the whole time he has been with the both of you. on top of that he is a liar. don't you deserve better?

    Answer by figaro8895 at 4:44 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

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