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how do you help someone...............

get over you? i was with someone for four years and broke up with him the realationship wasent working out now he is begging me to come back to him and i love him but i dont think it would work out if we got back together its a trust thing he cheated and he is promissing he changed and everything but i dont know what to doshould i give him another chance or should i just leave it alone and if i leave it alone then how do i help him find someone or get over me?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 1:57 PM on Oct. 2, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (8)
  • no don't go back you yourself are saying its not going to work just move on cut all ties with him & try not associate with people he knows so he is not always hearing about you or possibly seeing you. I went through a simlar situation but not cuz he cheated and I just moved on & eventually dated someone else... its tough but life goes on & maybe next time he will think twice on cheating with someone hopefully he learns something. GL.
    sarasmommy777

    Answer by sarasmommy777 at 2:07 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • A CLEAN break would do him good. Seeing you and talking to you all of the time if not going to help matters.
    Misteh

    Answer by Misteh at 1:59 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • First, you need to decide what is good for you. Then, if you decide not to be with him, and he's having a hard time with it...sorry, but thats his problem.
    RenoMama

    Answer by RenoMama at 2:08 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • LOL! It's the cheater that always wants to come back. Tell him No. You've made your decision and that's his problem on getting over you. He should have thought about that before.
    m-avi

    Answer by m-avi at 2:11 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • don't help him anything, u in his life won't help him get over you. stop picking up his calls and all that. After a couple months, if u want to be friends and you think he is over you contact him, but staying in his life won't help.
    gottalovemal

    Answer by gottalovemal at 2:12 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • he cheated once and he will cheat again.but why did he cheat on u the first time?
    diana398

    Answer by diana398 at 2:21 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • it sound like the only reason that you are considering getting back with him is a guilt feeling that he can't live without you. he'll be fine... i had an opportunity to get back together with an ex that i had a fantastic relationship with... the breakup happened because of a different demon than cheating, and for a long time we both just assumed we'd end up back together one day. however, the reality was that after spending some really nice time together as friends it was very obvious to me that he had at least as many isues as then and they annoyed me to the point of no longer even being able to continue to be friends. if you want him to get over you, break off contact. frankly i think it's less about you and more about his neediness and wanting to manipulate the situation. i'm sure you are wonderful, but if he had brains to figure that out he would never have cheated on you. leave it alone.
    figaro8895

    Answer by figaro8895 at 4:35 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

  • If he cheated on you, there's nothing left for you to go back to. If he can't be faithful to you once, what makes you think he'll be faithful again? He'll get over it eventually and you'll move on to someone better.
    _Tam_

    Answer by _Tam_ at 6:50 PM on Oct. 2, 2010

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