My daughter went truant. At the time she was into a goth phase so her punishment was to wear pink to school for a week. Then she did it again! I was furious! So for her punishment I got a big black trash bag, filled it with all her cool cloths (leaving only the stuff grandma had bought her) took her to the Goodwill and made her donate the lot. Hit 'em where it hurts that what I say.
As I said...when I was a teen I didn't let my clothing make my identity. And yes as a teen she may hate her mother for it but what can she do that WON'T make her teen say "I HATE YOU"? Grounding can cause resentment and so can no TV. Teens are emotional like that.
As for the punishment not fitting...what does taking away her TV have to do with skipping school? What does grounding have to do with skipping school?
You're probably going to say that by doing those things you are taking away privileges ...and I agree...but fashionable clothing is a privilege as well. She never said that she was taking away ALL of her clothes...and what happens when standard punishment doesn't work? I agree that those are great forms of punishment but sometimes it takes more than that.
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Oh I would've HATED that as a kid!! I think you did and excellent job! When it comes to punishment, I always say get creative but keep it safe...I think that was a VERY creative thing to do! It definitely would've worked for ME as a kid! I was into the whole silly "goth" thing too (a stage that your daughter will grow out of definitely and thankfully BTW) and I can honestly say what you did would DEFINITELY get the point across to me!
Discipline is all about trial and error...finding out what works best for you and your family through failed past expierences and knowledge gained. Explore your options and keep up the great work! (she'll hate you now but thank you later....no doubt).
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