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son is having problems @ school-ideas?

My son just started kindergarden--he was doing fine the 1st month but started acting up with the teacher,not wanting to do his school work. Around this time he started seeing his father for visitation after not seeing him for a few months. Should i cut down visitation(i have full custody) or just wait and see how he does ? (he see his father once a week for an hour and i'm near by)

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Asked by rec104 at 12:12 PM on Oct. 3, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • If he is only seeing him an hour a week, how can that be cut down? Anyhow, I would just talk with him about school, and why is it that he is suddently not doing his work? Maybe its getting harder? Im not sure. I would think if its' related to his dad, you would be seeing problems at home as well.

    Answer by minimo77 at 12:24 PM on Oct. 3, 2010

  • look at other areas of his life before you point to dad ? is he sleeping / eating well ? having trouble with playing / friends ? does he play " pretend ? " what does he say ? in play therape with children using mommy ,daddy ,teacher ,barbies ? you might find the answers .

    Answer by nanafor5 at 1:13 PM on Oct. 3, 2010

  • have you let teacher know about the change? an hour a week is not much at all, not sure if cutting it out would be ben. to ds or harmful... KWIM...
    talk to him, what is going on at school? why is he acting up? is he having a hard time? does he not like something? is the work too hard or too easy???

    Answer by MamiJaAyla at 8:48 PM on Oct. 3, 2010

  • let his teacher know about the new visitation. Anything new in a child's life ( good and bad) is something the teacher should know about that way they can better deal and maybe even more sympathetic toward the child. If it does keep up cut back on the visits with Dad. I would also talk to your son about his behavior and try to find out why.....

    He might just be having trouble with the way things are done at school. School is different from home and daycare they are more structured and have to follow the rules he may just be having a hard time adjusting. Have you talked with the teacher for her input and ask her for any suggestions?


    Answer by justgrape723 at 10:16 AM on Oct. 4, 2010

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