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How do get your 13 year old daughter to talk to you when clearly their is something wrong?

 
Monique78

Asked by Monique78 at 5:01 PM on Oct. 3, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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  • well if you push too much she is likely to clam up more, so it needs to be approached delicately. hopefully you have laid a foundation for discussion prior to this... this is a hard time to try to create closeness if it wasn't already there. just let her know that you can tell something is bothering her and that you are available to listen and not judge and that you will only give advice if she wants it - and stick to that. remind her you had to live through being a teenager too and you understand how difficult things are from friends to guys to school to making choices, etc.
    figaro8895

    Answer by figaro8895 at 5:04 PM on Oct. 3, 2010

  • Look her in the eye. Tell her to take a deep breath, slow down and repeat herself...
    SabrinaMBowen

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 5:02 PM on Oct. 3, 2010

  • Tell her she can tell you whatever is wrong without repercussions, that it will make her feel better if she does.

    older

    Answer by older at 5:03 PM on Oct. 3, 2010

  • No she just says nothings wrong
    Monique78

    Comment by Monique78 (original poster) at 5:03 PM on Oct. 3, 2010

  • You know at 13, if you worry about what is going on and she doesn't want to put out, I would snoop, and find out for myself.
    older

    Answer by older at 5:07 PM on Oct. 3, 2010

  • 13 is such a tough age. Middle schoool seems to be the most vicious time for bullying, teasing, shutting people out and cliques. Lots of kids begin to struggle about sexuality too. Not developing fast enough..or developing too fast. Sit her down in a private place. Look at her eye to eye and say I can see that something is upsetting you please talk to me. If she won't open up ask her straight out 'has someone hurt you, phsyically or otherwise" It could be friends, school, pressure about drugs and alcohol or heaven forbid someone touching her. Without badgering her make sure the communication line stays open. If she won't talk to you ask her if there is someone else she would like to talk to .
    GrnEyedGrandma

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 5:10 PM on Oct. 3, 2010