I love my 3bffs. we planned a trip to sedona for fun and relaxation... 3 of us have never been on vaca without kids and the husband. To make a long story short 1 of the girls was constanly on the phone with hubby letting him know our every move, her kids where crying, he was asking why we where not at our destination, and why are we taking so long to do xyz ( she did not excuse her self when on the phone) this wasn't he first display of his controling behavior. Last year he was upset with he gift that was given to her, he was expecting her to come hoem with 'x' but we decided to buy her something else, something more her style.
For 2 yrs now we've walked on egg shells trying not to upset him on her behalf. He insults all of us infront of coworkers bosses (persoanl info mind you).
I love her like a sister but im tired of walking on egg shells so he will not get angry. I'm so stressed!!! Am I making something out of nothing?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:54 AM on Oct. 4, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by ajc88 at 2:17 AM on Oct. 4, 2010
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Answer by CassyzMom at 9:22 AM on Oct. 4, 2010
I'd have a 'girls meeting' and all of you sit down with her and talk to her about this. Let her know that while you love her and value her friendship and you don't want to loose that-- BUT her husband is being a controlling jerk and his behavior is ruining it for everyone. I'd tell her that you are sick of walking on egg shells and tiptoeing around him. . I would let her know that you are upset that the sedona trip was ruined by his constant phone calls. It was supposed to be a girls time away-- not friend on phone with hubby the whole time. . I would ask that in the future she either #1- tell him NO CALLS and turn her phone off or you will start making plans without her as you are sick and tired of him and his drama taking over. Or #2- she can stay home with him and you will go out and have a drama-free night w/o him!
Answer by MizLee at 9:25 AM on Oct. 4, 2010
Answer by Cheveyo1 at 12:25 PM on Oct. 4, 2010
You guys are AWESOME! Lots of Great Advice. True friendship is hard to find. I couldn't call myself a friend if I walk away.
Some day I may need that same friendship. We've decided to get together talk it out and then beat his a**.
Answer by MaidMom177 at 4:30 PM on Oct. 4, 2010
Answer by Raine2001 at 6:22 PM on Oct. 4, 2010