Im 19, I got married in June to my babys father. We had our sone at ages 16 & 17. He graduated high school, but I didnt. He has his lisence, but I dont. I stay at home with our son during the day while he works. But I feel so useless sometimes. I think i may be falling into depression. I feel like I depend on him for everything, and hes more of a guardian than a spouse. He says thats crazy, but its how I feel. I want to get a job, but I would have to get my GED, and to get my GED I would need my lisence, and to get my lisence I would need a car, and to get a car I would need money, so i would need a job. Its a never ending circle! We only make enough to barely get by at the moment. So it's hard to save up for anything. And our familt isnt that supportive of anything, so were basicly alone. I was wondering if theres anyone out there that was in this situation at my age, and things are a lot better now?Answer Question
Answer by gabby06 at 11:28 PM on Oct. 4, 2010
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Answer by spiritguide_23 at 11:34 PM on Oct. 4, 2010
You didn't mention where you are from. I am sorry that you feel that way about yourself. One piece at a time. Do you absolutely need a license to get a GED, or can you get a non-drivers ID? Are there any jobs that you might be able to get that do not require a GED, even if it's only while you get your situation together? Have you talked to any of the assistance agencies in your state to see if they can point you in the right direction? I am not in your situation, but I do know what it is to devalue myself and to feel worthless. I think many moms here could say the same. Sometimes, though, you have to step back, and take things one at a time. Otherwise you could overwhelm yourself.
Answer by 69humblepie at 11:34 PM on Oct. 4, 2010
I am 43 and I have a Son who is 3. My one & only. I think that when you have a child that many people feel like their own life is on hold. We'll that is how I feel sometimes. But you are actually doing the most important job you will ever have in you life. Raising a child to be someone great some day. I also have learned to take one day at a time and one step at a time too. There is no rush in life, you have many years ahead of you. Make one goal at a time and however long it takes to achieve it. Start with your GED. Then go on from there. Everyone's path in life is different. Take time & enjoy where you are at every point in your life because these are all special moments that we can never re-live again. Good luck and take a deep breath and know that you are where you are because that is where you are supposed to be right now. Tomorrow is another day.
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