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Does anyone else find it tacky to share a labor horror story to a first time mom, about to go into the hospital to deliver her baby?

I guess for me, mom is already on edge and everyone has different experiences. If it's not asked for why would someone share horrific stories of childbirth to a woman already anxious? THis happened to me, and I spent my last week of my pregnancy freaking out, to be totally fine in the delivery room. I'm NOT SAYING THERE ISN"T A TIME TO SHARE THESE STORIES, just not when someone says they are nervous about their delivery in the next 2 days. Or they don't know what to expect.


Asked by Anonymous at 11:36 PM on Oct. 5, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (9)
  • Yes. Tacky.

    Believe me, I have a WHOPPER of a horror story I could tell if I wanted to, but I keep my mouth shut. First-time mama doesn't need any (additional) trauma!

    Answer by aliceryannesmom at 11:39 PM on Oct. 5, 2010

  • Yes but I have no labore horror stories and would not share them if I did!

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 11:38 PM on Oct. 5, 2010

  • It depends on the mom to be, I guess but it probably is insensitive and all 1st time moms are already freaked out to the max!

    Answer by agentwanda at 11:39 PM on Oct. 5, 2010

  • most sugar coat it and aI don't agree with that..Its labor and it hurts but to tell them a awful experience thats not good.

    Answer by hill2 at 11:40 PM on Oct. 5, 2010

  • Yep. My best friend halfway brought up one of her friends almost bleeding to death, then shut her mouth and said she'd tell me later. Smart girl!

    Answer by anng.atlanta at 11:41 PM on Oct. 5, 2010

  • Not all of my labors went according to plan, but when someone asks I tactfully tell them to be open minded in case things don't go as planned, because it's all for the best of the baby. I couldn't sit there and tell a first time mom about to give birth that my son stopped breathing after birth. The odds of that happening to them are slim to none. Unless it's a similar situation, I'm pretty general. :)

    Answer by Musicmom80 at 11:41 PM on Oct. 5, 2010

  • hill2, everyone knows labor hurts, we are talking about tact, not sugar coating.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 11:42 PM on Oct. 5, 2010

  • If they ask and really want to know... why wouldn't you just tell them
    BUT if they don't... why open your mouth.

    Answer by ajc88 at 11:43 PM on Oct. 5, 2010

  • Yes. A few months before I was due to give birth to my 1st, so many ladies told me it would hurt so bad I would wish I were dead. So, I was scared to death to give birth. My daughter came so quick I didn't feel any pain. I was only in labor for an hour and she was out in 3 pushes.

    Answer by PoisonousBlonde at 11:43 PM on Oct. 5, 2010