about SEVEN HUNDRED AND FIFTY THOUSANDDDDDD YEARSSSS!!!! WOW!!!?
So WHY are we all freaked out? Why do so many of us not let our children play unattended outside? Even for a few small minutes? Why is everyone convinced we need our children on a leash for them to be safe??
A result of parents being overly protective and nervous/scared, results in timid frightened children who are never experiencing the thrill of individual accomplishment or the joy of taking a risk... GREAT article by the way!
Asked by Anonymous at 7:54 AM on Oct. 6, 2010 in General Parenting
Answer by shanlaree at 7:57 AM on Oct. 6, 2010
Answer by Zoeyis at 7:59 AM on Oct. 6, 2010
Answer by tyfry7496 at 8:01 AM on Oct. 6, 2010
My kid was and is allowed outside unattended to play...I AM a Free-Range parent. I agree with you. The odds are astronomical..and haven't changed in years. Media makes it seem so. I would rather take that chance and have my kid grow up free of worries and NOT held back out my own out-of-proportion fear. Sure kids are kidnapped, raped and murdered...but, no more than always. And all the protection in the world can't stop it from happening. Elizabeth Smart was removed from her bedroom while her sister slept there too.
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 8:03 AM on Oct. 6, 2010
omg lol. zoeyis. :) no i'm not a kidnapper. shanlaree - don't be mistaken - I am not at ALL insensitive to parents of lost children - not at all my point... I do feel for them - however at the moment I'm not talking about them, I'm talking about the odds of this, and giving children a "little" freedom. I apologize if this offends any parents of missing children - it is not my intent.... I DO have a heart. :)
Answer by Tiffany8168 at 8:04 AM on Oct. 6, 2010
Answer by mom2twobabes at 8:09 AM on Oct. 6, 2010
Answer by twinsplus2more at 8:12 AM on Oct. 6, 2010
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 8:15 AM on Oct. 6, 2010
So, what ages are we talking here? My 4 yr old dd does not go anywhere without me, period! My 11 yr old dd can walk around our neighborhood but I'm more comfortable if she is with friends. My 17 yr old dd is a different story and has lots more freedom. I definitely do not "helicopter" over my children but I do take the necessary precautions. It also depends on where you live. I grew up in ND, the lowest crime rate state of the country, but we are now living in Houston, Texas and kidnapping, attempted kidnapping, adult abductions, carjackings, murders, rapes and so on are a very real part of our lives.
Answer by shanlaree at 8:17 AM on Oct. 6, 2010
I ALWAYS know where my kids are, what they are doing, who they are with, I have all the numbers, know the other moms, etc. My son knows his rules, and makes good choices if not - trust me - there's a consequence. If he does anything he's not supposed to I know about it, kids talk. We talk about it, and learn from it. He really doesn't do much as far as breaking any rules. Hes a great kid if i do say so myself. :) Standing out there watching the almost ten year old boys is fine for me - IF i felt it was necessary - which i don't. How can he learn to be independent - and make good choices on HIS OWN if he always know he's being watched. He needs to make the same good choices when no one is looking! How can he learn that if not given the opportunity????
Answer by Tiffany8168 at 8:20 AM on Oct. 6, 2010