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Could your relationship survive a disappearing sex drive?

The partner that doesn't want sex anymore doesn't particularly care for it, but still "puts out" at least 1-3 times a week. They don't really like doing extra stuff like using their hands/mouths, but they still do that occassionally too. They can have an orgasm, but it doesn't really benefit them. Everything they do is for their partner - they're just not that into sex. So, if either you or your S/O completely lost their sex drive, would your relationship survive?

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Asked by sojourner. at 9:47 AM on Oct. 6, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Yep. It's not supposed to be all about sex.

    Answer by TALuke at 9:51 AM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • I kind of have.. a little bit..because I'm pregnant. But when we do have sex, I love it. If we didn't have sex at all, I dont think our relationship would be very strong. Sex puts a very strong bond between the people.

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 9:51 AM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Sure. We love each other for far more than sex.

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 9:53 AM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Yes. There is a lot more to a relationship than sex. You described our marriage for the past 3 years and we still love each other very much, are intimate with each other, still love spending time together, go out on dates together. We just don't have sex than much, and we are both fine with it. We've been married for 14 years now.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:53 AM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • It probably depends on the circumstance. However, in my case, yes it is surviving. DH is ill and has been unable to perform for quite a long time. Yet, our relationship remains extremely strong.

    Answer by TeensMom07 at 9:56 AM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Of course. Our relationship is not just based on sex, there's more to us than that. I go through periods where I'm not in the mood for sex. My husband doesn't care. He actually understands. We still pay attention to each other. Sometimes we get more enjoyment by going out and doing things together than just having sex. If a relationship falls apart just because there's not sex going on, then that's terrible. Obviously it wasn't much of a relationship to begin with. Yes, sex is important but it's not the most important thing.

    Answer by poptart0325 at 10:01 AM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Don't give up. if you just had a major change in your life give it time. ie. Kids moving new job school a death of someone.

    Answer by boogabeara at 11:07 AM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • It did. And now things are much better. Except this week we kept making plans, but we were so exhausted we couldn't stay awake! lol

    Answer by Austinsmom35 at 5:41 PM on Oct. 8, 2010

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