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HELP!! My 4 year old RUNS MY HOUSE!! I have spoiled him, and now that he is older I dont now how to discipline him. He never listens, and it puts a huge strain on everything!!

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Emily441

Asked by Emily441 at 12:51 PM on Oct. 6, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Freakin' discipline him and learn to say NO.
    BradenIsMySon

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 12:52 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Take a parenting class and commit to changing. It's hard, like starting a new diet or exercise program, so be sure to find as much support as you can. Do it for yourself and do it for your child. I highly recommend the Love & Logic parenting program. Check the websites for your local school system and local churches, and you may find that Love and Logic, or some other program is being offered for free. If you can't find a class go to the library and get a book. If you can't find Love & Logic, you might also consider trying 1-2-3 Magic. It will be hard at first, but if you stick to it you will see improvement. GL!

    TweenAndTwinMom

    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 12:57 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Stop spoiling your child first of all. Start saying NO. Don't let the child run all over you.
    xxlilmomma09

    Answer by xxlilmomma09 at 12:58 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • When you tell him something, make him do it. If you threaten with any consequences, follow through with them. Talk to him and tell him what behavior you expect from him and what happens if you don't get that behavior from him. When he is doing something right and good, tell him so. Positive reinforcement is going to play a big role now. And so is following through with the consequences that you tell him are coming. I wish you luck! You have a long and hard road ahead of you. Good luck, momma!
    QueenMomma2023

    Answer by QueenMomma2023 at 12:59 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Ok, to be honest, you should have started about two years ago. But, you still have time brfore the really big stuff happens. First of all. set some house rules, like no running, throwing in the house, food and drink must be kept at the table, that kind of thing. Post the rules and consequenses on the fridge. Talk to you son and tell him what will happen if he breaks a rule. Then follow through. It is going to take a least a month to get this to work, and you must be very consistent. No let ups at all. I would also recommend getting some parenting books by Dr. James Dobson. He has helped me with my kids more than he will ever know!
    A.Perry

    Answer by A.Perry at 1:01 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Consistency is the key. First, make out the house rules. Sit him down and tell him you want to go over them. Then hang them somewhere he can see them, even if he can't read, he'll still understand what they mean. Then decide on a time out spot. Let him know where it is and that if he doesn't follow the rules then he will be set there. When he starts to act up, you have to follow through. Give him a warning and if he continues then set him on the spot (for 4 mins), let him know why you are putting him there and walk away. If he gets up put him back, but don't talk to him. Don't give him any attention. When the 4 minutes are up go to him, on your knees so that you are face to face with him and tell him again why he was on that spot, and ask him for an apology and give him a hug and a kiss. Always praise him for good behavior, make a reward system for that. It's very important
    to always speak to him face to face.
    ferguson81

    Answer by ferguson81 at 1:10 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • good luck with the grave you dug yourself
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:26 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • There are several parents in your situation. You are not alone by any means. Boo to the rude responses! LOL
    sherribeare

    Answer by sherribeare at 2:23 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • you got to start somewhere. better late than never
    mekarevell

    Answer by mekarevell at 9:00 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

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