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how can i get my boyfriend to last longer in bed? tmi adult content

i mean it always seems so short and when hes done hes down for the count. kinda makes me think its cuz im not attractive enough :/

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Asked by Tiffany_Rivera_ at 2:53 PM on Oct. 6, 2010 in Relationships

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  • It's actually the opposite. He's over excited, not trying to get it over with. The best thing to do is be open and honest with him, that it's not enough, and then brace yourself for two or three days of pouting.

    I did this, with my husband, actually, and he was mad for a bit, and then, he rocked my world, and has ever since.

    Answer by lovinangels at 2:55 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • no he wants to last longer to haha we been trying to think of ideas to make this happen actually :/

    Comment by Tiffany_Rivera_ (original poster) at 2:56 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Nope, usually that's a sign that he is too excited and overally stimulated. That wouldn't be the case if he didn't find you attractive :-)

    How to make him last longer:
    1) He needs to know his own body well enough, and his own sexual responses so that he knows when he is getting close to cumming.
    2) You need to know his body well enough, and his sexual repsonses well enough so that you can tell when he's getting close to cummming.
    3) When either of you feel his getting to the point of no return.. Stop and switch positions. This will cause his body to actually pull back from the brink. And he will have to build back up to that point again.
    4) When either of you feel he is getting close. Stop and go back into some foreplay. Again, this causes his body to pull back from being close to cumming, and once intercourse starts up again, he will build back up to that point.
    5) Always make sure there is plenty of foreplay to!!

    Answer by pixie_trix at 2:58 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • Men do have a "point of no return" (lol) that we women do not have. Once they get to the point that they are stimulated enough to cum. Their bodies go into overdrive and just take over. The body naturall will just keep going until orgasm happens. In order to make it last longer. He needs to know what this point is for him. So that he can stop, pull himself back, get himself under control, and then get back on it. :-)


    Answer by pixie_trix at 3:00 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • thats what we do it only works sometime hehe

    Comment by Tiffany_Rivera_ (original poster) at 3:04 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • My best suggestion is look into pure romance or passion parties and buy some of the cream that numbs him up just a little and try that out. BE CAREFUL not to get it ON YOU before it's completely rubbed in because numbing you is NOT going to help anything. lol Oh and c-rings work pretty well too. Passion parties carry a line of "jelly" c-rings that are super stretchy so not uncomfortable like the more rigid variety.

    Answer by kfroz0415 at 3:14 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

  • They have benzocaine creams that will slow it down. Also, try a bj or hand job a couple hours before sex. It will take alot longer that way :)

    Answer by carsonsmommytam at 5:37 PM on Oct. 6, 2010

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