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Im 36 wks preggers and the babys daddy wanted the baby but eversince i got pregant he hasnt been there.

He is always makeing excuse for not helping me i asked for a few dollars since ive been on bed rest for over a mth and cant work and i need to get a Rx for my vitamens and he told me know will i be wrong if i dont let him see the baby?

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Dorriansmom1984

Asked by Dorriansmom1984 at 10:34 AM on Oct. 25, 2008 in Pregnancy

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  • Men! Why did he tell you no? Can he not afford the vitamins? I always think it is wrong to keep a parent from seeing a child unless the parent is dangerous...i.e. abusive, drug addicted, severly mentally ill. You can't really stop him from seeing the baby because he is a jerk! Sorry you're having such a tough time. Try to hang in there.
    profmom922

    Answer by profmom922 at 10:36 AM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • No you can't stop him like she said but YOU can determine the conditions of his visitation. Also, if he wants to see this child then he needs to also support it! He can't expect to just see it whenever HE wants and not help out.
    AshJoe05

    Answer by AshJoe05 at 11:07 AM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • no if he isnt there for you all he will do is mess up and be in and out of your childs life and hurt your child more than if he wasnt there at all!
    vakatia

    Answer by vakatia at 11:36 AM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • JUST KEEP REMINDING YOURSELF THAT IF NEED BE YOU CAN DO IT BY YOURSELF. NOW IN THE LAWS EYES YOU WOULD HAVE TO LET HIM SEE THE BABY IF IT CAME DOWN TO THAT, AS FAR AS ANY OTHER MOTHER GOING TO THE SAME TING THEY WOULD TELL YOU TO JUST BE STRONG AND TO DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO.
    caquinones

    Answer by caquinones at 11:48 AM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • You can do it alone if he's being so ignorant with you! I would take him to court fo custody and child support. All the conditions in which he can see the baby will be determined there, plus then he'll have to give you money to support your child. That way you're not just being a bitch and cutting him out of your child's life...just getting what you need to raise your baby!
    cskomk0106

    Answer by cskomk0106 at 12:16 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Thanks everyone for the advice.
    Dorriansmom1984

    Answer by Dorriansmom1984 at 1:30 AM on Oct. 27, 2008

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