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Your best friend cannot have kids.. She asks you to be the surrogate mother for her.. Do you do it? Why or Why not?


Asked by SuperrMommyy at 10:08 AM on Oct. 7, 2010 in Parenting Debate

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Answers (22)
  • No, Because I could not carry a child and not love it as my own. It would be too painful and I would resent seeing her with that child. I would help her any other way I could though.

    Answer by Shanna84 at 10:11 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • She would never have to ask me.I would offer in a heart beat.

    Answer by ryanlynn at 10:09 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I would not be able to answer completely honestly, because it never happen.

    I am not too sure. I don't know if I could live with the fact that my daughter/son would be raised around me and not actually be mine.

    I think it would be too difficult too handle. My best friend is my best friend but we are not alike in a lot of ways, our life styles are so diffrent. That is what has been keeping us friends for so long, we are completely honest with each other and we don't agree a lot but she is like a sister too me-we never even fought, we just say how's the weather?? That means lol, leave it alone.

    Answer by KFree907 at 10:16 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I don't know. She would have to be like the bestest bestest friend in the world. I didn't like pregnancy with my own kids lol

    Answer by Zakysmommy at 10:18 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • No, not because I wouldn't want to, but because I know at my age, they'd reject me, plus I only want to be pregnant one more time and that's for me own baby.

    If I was 15-20 years younger? Sure.

    Answer by thatgirl70 at 11:05 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • No. Pregnancy is always a risk. So many things can go wrong. Also, I couldn't carry a baby for 9 months, then give him or her up to be raised by someone else.

    Answer by akyoungmommy at 11:33 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I wouldnt, I would be to worried about emotions coming into play afterwords, and being around your child thats her child all the time, and differences in parenting would probably bother me more. If I were going to do serogacy it would have to be for someone I didnt know. I dont think I could do it at all though because I fall to in love with the baby while Im pregnant.

    Answer by -LovingMamma- at 10:11 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I would but shouldn't.....i'm a diabetic and I also had preeclampsia with my daughter last year, she had to be born via c-sec three weeks early, thankfully she is just perfect.

    Answer by Mom2Jack04 at 10:12 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • Hell no.

    Pregnancy was miserable for me.

    Answer by UpSheRises at 10:14 AM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • My best friend has a kids so I wont ever be in that situation :) I would however be a gestational surrogate.

    Answer by kjbennett26 at 10:21 AM on Oct. 7, 2010