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To Cafemom why you let MEAN MOMS join?

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Asked by monches at 1:57 PM on Oct. 25, 2008 in About CafeMom

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  • the cafemom team has no way of knowing the personality of members before they join.

    however if you feel that a member is violating cafemom's TOU you can report them, if cafemom feels that they are in violation, they will suspend/terminate their membership.

    Answer by flutterfae at 1:59 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • I hear ya, I am a very laid back person and dont normaly judge anyone. I dont like to deal with judgementle or rude people and the reporting thing doesn't always work. Some people are really good at being rude without violiting the "rules" I think we should make a group that were there is no judging aloud. If you cant look at everything from all different aspects and put yourself in others shoes than you cant join :)

    Answer by perksmom at 2:08 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Isn't "mean" an opinion? What I consider mean and what you consider mean and what a million others moms consider mean are all different. How do you judge mean? The f word being used, a different opinion, a different world view, an abrasive person, a passive aggressive person, what is "mean"?

     "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent "~ Elenore Roosevelt


    Answer by Anonymous at 2:20 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • I love that quote anon2:20!

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:41 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Same reason they allow stupid ones to join, I guess. JMO

    Answer by EvaSerenity at 2:51 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Some of the moms perceived as "Mean" are ones I sort of like. They say it like they see it, without pussyfooting around. Sure, there are some who are mean because they think they're a lot smarter than they are - like the ones who incorrectly "correct" others' grammar, but all-in-all I'd much rather have a mix of people than enforced-happy-funland where we're all forced to be polite OR ELSE.

    Answer by Avarah at 3:38 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Thank you anon 1:41 :) I have been called sweet as pie and mean as shit, it all depends on the other's perception :)


    Answer by Anonymous at 4:37 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Life would be more pleasant if we could weed out the so called "Mean" ones. Just stay away from those types of people and life will be nicer...I do!

    Cafemom is fairly strict when it comes to this...The rules are pretty simple here - Any disrespectful answers will be removed and your account may be suspended or even canceled.

    Answer by Cindrella72 at 4:53 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Yes i do agree that there are some not nice ppl on cafemom but it depends on the person i guess. I mean maybe they were just having a bad day and u saw them at a not so good time. I have been called mean by ppl who just came into the chat and went off for no reason. So i do agree that there are ppl on cafemom who are not nice, then there are others who arent given the chance to show u that they do have a nicer side to them.

    Answer by Ali-Rippy at 5:37 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Because despite the crap we dish out and take, we are all still sisters and would probably all stand up for one another against the world.

    Answer by SusieD250 at 9:05 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

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