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once a cheater allways a cheater and do you think they can change? i just found out they cant

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Asked by pyrofyterwife at 5:45 PM on Oct. 7, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I don't know but I sure hope they can!

    Answer by Darla47 at 5:48 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • Anyone CAN change... Until I met my DH I never once had just one SO... Never. Of course I'm the type that really didn't see a need to hide that from them either... But my DH isn't comfortable with either of us having extras, so I don't... Having more than one SO is ALWAYS a choice and always one which has to be made - just because someone DID something in the past doesn't mean they will in the future...

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 5:48 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • false.

    Answer by Chell.o_0 at 5:49 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I think it's possible some CAN change, depending on the circumstances they cheated under. But I know for myself that if my fiance ever cheated on me, he'd be out the door. No second chances, no forgiveness, nothing. OUT.

    Answer by Anouck at 5:51 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I think the cheater has to really want to change and in that case, I have no doubt that they can.

    Answer by scout_mom at 5:51 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • Sure everyone can change, its a matter of wanting to be able to change. In most cases, they dont want to change, because they know in the end they can still have their cake & eat their icecream too...


    Answer by lilmoosesmom at 5:55 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • true - once a cheater always a cheater & i wouldnt wait to find out anyway because thats disgusting and im not taking the chance of getting herpes.

    Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 5:55 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I think only they know if they can stop cheating.

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 5:58 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I believe everyone can change. So much depends on the situation surrounding any past infidelity, and the relationship with their current partner. I do think that there are some people that are "serial cheaters" - the ones who have cheated with multiple people during every relationship. Those people will never change.

    Answer by Scuba at 5:58 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I believe they can change but I don't know how you could ever trust them again?

    Answer by anichols1 at 6:00 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

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