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how do I deal with the emotional conections my boyfriend has with his ex wife

I recently went to a funerual with my boyfriend and his ex wife was there It was really hard to sit there and watch his ex wife comfort him and letting her do it

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Asked by outwithold at 5:51 PM on Oct. 7, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Do they have a child together? Why did they separate? Those are very important to learning and understanding that relationship.

    Answer by Mom1Stepmom1 at 5:53 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • Comfort comes from anywhere and you need only remember one thing she is the ex for a reason.

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 5:54 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • what do you mean by comfort him?

    Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 5:54 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • There are probably going to be several times when she can comfort him where you can't unfortunately.. Was the funeral for one of their friends? They may have had several memories from that point in time. I wouldn't take it to heart. They chose to divorce -- that tells you right there that they didn't want to be with one another.. and he is with you -- and brought you along.. that should tell you something. Plus, if they have kids together -- then they have to be friends.

    Answer by ajc88 at 5:57 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • They have shared life experiences together. That means that she will be there for the rest of your lives. It's not like he had never had a relationship with anyone else prior to you two.
    If their relationship ended on a good note, that is good for you since she won't be causing drama in your relationship. Now if she was crossing the line physically, then you need to bring that up with him. He needs to hod his distance at that point.

    It may be that she didn't mean any harm by it and you are overreacting but if it bothers you that much, you should still talk with him about it.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 5:57 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • Sometimes even ex wife trumps girlfriend. You did the right thing by letting her play a role that she is familiar with. It doesn't diminish who you are and down the road you will be the one in her shoes. This is just as long as he is truly over her.

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 6:18 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • Is there a possibility that he isn't over their breakup yet?

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 6:27 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • How long has he been your boyfriend?

    Answer by awesomedeity at 7:52 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • ALL OF YOU HAD THE RIGHT ANSWERS , i DONT REALLY THINK HE IS COMPLETELY OVER HER. my greatest fear is she will be in the way of us going forward


    Comment by outwithold (original poster) at 7:22 PM on Oct. 10, 2010

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