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Would you say your SO has a good or bad attitude?

Our dishwasher doesn't dry and doesn't clean the dishes. I show him (I have been telling him and he hopes it will go away). He says, "I guess I will go buy a new dishwasher with my next bonus" like a sadsack. He gets ticked because if money comes in, it has to go out. I feel like we are all burdens. BTW. I work fulltime too! And I don't get any bonuses to even think of what they could buy. I wish he'd grow up!


Asked by Anonymous at 4:38 PM on Oct. 25, 2008 in Relationships

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Answers (9)
  • EireLass - her larger point was that he has a bad attitude about everything? Being resentful of things that have to be addressed... making her feel like she and the kids are a burden to him. The broken dishwasher was an example. Complaining perhaps.. but also asking how other peoples relationships are to get a read on hers. I don't think its really possible to avoid every confrontation or expense, do you?

    Answer by Serafyna at 5:42 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • it's the exact opposite in our house. I don't think i make my dh feel like a burdon but i get upset when he tells me about something that needs to be replaced more than once and we don't have the $$ for it.

    Answer by myboogiewoogie at 4:40 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Why don't you just wash the dishes by hand and avoid the whole argument?

    Answer by EireLass at 4:40 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Or HE could do the dishes by hand... or call a repair man to see if it can be fixed. Why does the female have to do the dishes? Pfft.

    I think my SO has a great attitude... but then, I am the one that manages the money. He gets an allowance (a set amount) thats his for lunches, gas, and misc.

    Answer by Serafyna at 5:10 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • half and half, he always does what i asked but he's lazy and gets pissy when i ash him to do the lawn.

    Answer by chyna_doll at 5:17 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • Serafyna........I wrote that to her because she was the one complaining about it on here. If he were the one I'd have addressed that he should just wash them. In my house, we all have things we don't like that don't seem to bother the other. So we just deal with it on our own terms. I have 2 large dogs and a big long hair cat. Honey seems to think he has a nasal problem caused by the fur. I vacuumed every week, but he believes he can do it better. Okay, go for it, no blaming or argument needed. I don't like how he does I just do blaming or argument needed. Same with dishes, cleaning bathrooms and so on. Just deal with it....there are way bigger issues to put your energy into and worry about than dirty dishes.

    Answer by EireLass at 5:24 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • My SO has a bad attitude about a lot of things but that is just his personality type. I have to accept that about him. If there are certain subjects that irritate the man I steer clear of them. I think that might be an idea here. Whether it be dishwashing, clothes washing or picking up around the house. If it needs to be done, just do it. I'm one who hand washes dishes. I think the time it takes to wash and dry the dishes gives us time to talk about things we might not normally talk about. I think it brings us closer together. No matter what the issue, think about it. you can figure something out. My SO is a cantankerous ole military goat set in his ways so I just figure out a way to make us both content. Heck, buy paper plates if necessary!

    Answer by admckenzie at 6:28 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • It sounds to me like he was just upset about it. Maybe he had other plans for that money....Maybe he had planned something without telling anybody wanting it to be a surprise. Now he can not do that, and instead has to by a dishwasher , which I might add is not a MUST have. I get tired of being broke too and so does my SO it is natural. I get upset about it and so does he........I thought it was normal to get upset about unexpected bills coming up.

    Answer by imtheonlysane1 at 7:43 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

  • It isn't about the dishes. I can take care of it myself and that doesn't include washing the dishes. The point is, the man moans and groans about how he spends his bonus. Why not celebrate the fact that he gets a bonus? That's my point. It's a negative attitude.

    Answer by manna1qd at 7:21 AM on Oct. 27, 2008