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Why does my 14 mo daughter grab and scratch?

She head butts the floor when she doesn't get her way and is aggressive with other kids.

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Asked by mommyofemmy at 10:13 PM on Oct. 7, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • She is of an age where she knows what she wants but may not be able to verbalize it. She is trying to get it out anyway that she can and when she isn't understood she gets frustrated.
    She needs to learn that the outbursts and behaviour are not acceptable so discipline should happen. However, keep calm. Ask her to try to explain. Show her ways to appropriately tell you what she wants.
    It's a phase and you will get thru it.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 10:19 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • I agree with Jademom, she is probably frustrated with not being able to communicate like she wants to. She may also be trying to get your attention, esp when other children are around she may feel threatened in the attention department esp at that age.

    Answer by Princess_s21 at 11:35 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • Thanks for the advice...I guess I just have to let her know that is not a way to get attention

    Comment by mommyofemmy (original poster) at 11:40 PM on Oct. 7, 2010

  • maybe you should ignore her when she does this or spank her and put her in time out different things work for different children but whatever you do don;t let her have her way it will make her very spoiled and defiant later if you let her have her way i know from making that mistake with my 12 year old

    Answer by beckybuck at 12:01 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • she sounds fustrated. First try to work with her about it. Try to distract negative behavior with positive behavior.. (if she's mad you won't let her have your cell phone, find another toy that will distract her and keep her happy and content). Show her aggressive behavior will be ignored (if she bits/hits/bangs head, ignore it). And sit with her while she interacts with other kids. Be sure you say "No" if she tries to get aggressive.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 5:04 PM on Oct. 8, 2010

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