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Why do gay men act feminine? Isn't that contradictive?

If a guy likes guys, why not just behave like a normal guy who just happens to like males instead of females? Why can't gay man just blend in. Why do so many have to make themselves standout?

If a gay man likes feminine men doesn't that imply they still like femininity, which would imply they aren't totally gay after all ? How does that work?


Asked by Zoeyis at 10:25 AM on Oct. 8, 2010 in Politics & Current Events

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Answers (18)
  • Very powerful observation even though all gay men do not act feminine. But I often ask myself something similar. It isn't logical for a man to "not like women" but behave like one or at least try to behave like one. That is a contradiction. Not speaking on all but those who claim they don't like women, for one reason or another, If they don't like women then why try to be one in some form? The same goes for the opposite sex.

    Answer by Cheveyo1 at 10:34 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • Not all gay guys act like that.

    And not all straight men act "Manly".

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:26 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • What bob does does not make you look bad why do you care?

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 10:34 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • Op, I think it may be more of Hollywood glamorizes the gay guy role with how you described.... But I don't think they are ALL like that.... Everyone is different, in their own unique way... ;o)

    Answer by grlygrlz2 at 10:49 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • You are speaking of the 'flamers' not all gays act like primpy women.I do not agree with the lifestyle but come on you didn't realize this?

    Answer by tnmomofive at 10:27 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • I agree with BradenIsMySon!

    Answer by poptart0325 at 10:29 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • I am going to just say what is really on my mind this time and not be polite ok? People are committing suicide because they are being bullied in school. My nephew has been hospitalized because people are so unaccepting of him. Can you PLEASE just learn to accept people for who they are and stop judging????


    Answer by Mommy2Gabrielle at 10:41 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • Maybe because they aren't normal guys?? No,seriously,not all of them act like that.There are a lot of gay guys that you'd never believe in a million years they were gay.Some stand out,some don't.Just like some lesbians are really butch,and some are very feminine.

    Answer by GingerKitten at 10:43 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • Is this really an issue? Why are some women more aggressive than others? Why are some straight men better dressers than others? What does it really matter? We are all different in our own ways.

    Maybe some gay men like feminine men because that's their taste in men. Just like you might like a talk dark and handsome, or rugged manly blond. How does your taste in men work? If you can figure that out, then apply the same rules to gay men and there's your answer.


    Answer by QuinnMae at 10:31 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • They have more of a feminine brain. Just like butch women have more of a masculine brain.

    Answer by delilahsmom1177 at 10:46 AM on Oct. 8, 2010