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my step-son's "mom" has primary custody of him, but he is always with me and my husband. we go to all school functions, BUY EVERYTHING, take him places, do all birthdays, holidays, football games, ect. Basically everything! Ive been with him since he was 1 in a half, HE IS 6. i treat him like my own, But hiS "mom" doesent do ANYTHING with him or for him, NEVER HAS. MY husband still pays child support, we have asked her to give us rigths or drop the child support since we do everything and always have. SHE WONT AND SHE IS A DEAD BEAT MOM TO THE FULLEST AND JUST KEEPS HIM FOR THE CHILD SUPPORT CHECK! I TRY NOT TO GET MAD BUT MY STEP SON DESERVES BETTER.

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Asked by king0913 at 10:44 AM on Oct. 8, 2010 in Relationships

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  • have you tried taking her to court? does she have a job and a house and he lives with her full time? do you have any good evidence for the courts to stop making your dh pay child support? i'm sorry you're going through this and i think i would be mad too but i don't know what you could do except take her to court again :-/

    Answer by DreainCO at 10:50 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • she has never had a job, 9th grade drop out, lives with some man that pays her bills. we have spent thousands in trying to make a case against her. we got nothing. our lawyer said we have no case unless she is deemed unfit. its not against the law to be a sorry, lazy, unloving, dead beat mother. wish it was...

    Comment by king0913 (original poster) at 10:59 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • Its awesome you and your husband are there for him shame on her this will come back to her.

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 11:06 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • Then go back to the court and explain the situation and fight for you guys to have primary custody of your step-son.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 11:13 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • i was going to be a smart azz and say you should not be "mad" - only dogs get "mad" - you should be "angry" - but after reading your most sincere and touching message, this is no time for silliness - yes you should be very mad - i can feel your pain - i wish there were some advice i could you that would make it possible for your and your husband to have custody of his son and the son that you may call your own, since you are actually his mother in real life - i think the fact that you guys do everything for and with this little boy should count for something - have you tried contacting an attorney for a consultation to see just how your case might go in court? i would definitely fight for the rights to have custody of this precious little boy!! good luck to you - all three of you!!!

    Answer by kaysimon132461 at 11:29 AM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • She is most certainly a dead beat mom and you need to gather evidence to support that so that you can go to court straight and get custody. record everything you buy, the time you spend and what you did, every time he is with you needs to be documented. that way when you make these points to the judge. Now she might try to say that she is just trying to allow the child time with his father so you also need to find out how she is spending the money if she is not buying the child anything. other than bills the support money is for that baby's well being. One other point, Do not send the thing you purchase for the child when you send him back to her. As long as you do everything and send it, it makes it that much easier for her not to do for that baby. Of course once all of this comes to a head in the justice system the are going to ask if she wants partial custody but if she is in it just for the money then knowing she is

    Answer by Cheveyo1 at 12:12 PM on Oct. 8, 2010

  • going to lose a good portion of funds should be more then enough for her to decline. Also when you get to that point make absolutely sure that the visitations be supervised. No woman, or man, should use a child for financial gain.

    Answer by Cheveyo1 at 12:14 PM on Oct. 8, 2010

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