In my experience, i have found that small children have sometimes a hard time expressing anger and have to find someway to let out their frustration. They have the need to destroy to feel better i guess you could say. I nanny'ed for many years and had a high tempered little guy and he would hurt himself and others to get his anger out. I found that letting him go outside and scream would sometimes help and then allowing him to sit with scrap paper and tear paper... the process of ripping and tearing really allowed him to get out his anger. Shortly after he stopped hurting himself and others and would let me know that he needed some paper when he was mad. Getting him to express that he was mad and that it was okay to let me know that was a wonderful way to understand when and why he was mad and get the communucation happenning. Hope this helps a little. Good luck!
at 12:08 PM on Oct. 8, 2010