I have a newborn and toddler that I stay at home with each day. My husband leaves for work at 6 am and doesn't return until 6 pm. My newborn doesn't sleep much during the day unless I hold her and my son doesn't nap at the same time she does. When my husband does give me breaks he is coming to pull me out of the shower to feed her etc. So I literally have about 20 min to myself each day. When he does take her she screams and cries. And then I have to take her to get her to calm down. I feel like I am at my wits end. Why can't he just calm her down? Any advice? No bashing please. Needing a break to shower in peace, etc doesn't make me a bad mom.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:38 PM on Oct. 8, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)
Answer by mom2twobabes at 5:42 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by Chell.o_0 at 5:42 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
I have been there and done that.... and because of the nature of hubs job he was often gone on weekends.
This is not much help... but this too shall pass.
I kept my sanity with play groups, baby sitting trades, an aunt who helped out maybe once a month. But I could never leave long because I was breast feeding. It is simply something you must work through. All good things come from hard work.
My kids are now 15 & 13 and I have LONG streaches of time alone in the house.... and wouldnt mind one of those crazed days again.
Answer by sahlady at 5:43 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by Anouck at 5:43 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by duckigrrl at 5:48 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by CafeMochaMom1 at 5:59 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by Cenchan at 6:08 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by shehappywifemom at 6:11 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Women used to share childrearing and now we are usually stuck with it all alone. I was a single mom with my 3rd and he was with me 24/7. I found it was easier if you just assume you have to do everything with no time alone rather than waste effort being irritated with the father for not doing his share.
Answer by Gailll at 8:13 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by Journey311 at 9:44 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
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