I read a question about molestation and forgiveness earlier, and it made me wonder. Is it really necessary to forgive in order to move on?
I was molested by a family friend (or rather, one of my grandmother's foster kids) when I was about 5 years old. Now, even though I was pretty young, I never blamed myself, and I never really felt traumatized. I just figured "wow, that guy is messed up" and that's about it. I wasn't raped or anything like that, and at the time I don't think I really realized what he was doing, but later on, it dawned on me that what he did was NOT okay. Anyway... I don't feel like I ever forgave him. He was an asshole for doing what he did. And when I heard he had died young, I was glad, I have no issues admitting that. But I DO believe I moved on from that. I don't feel traumatized, I don't have issues with men or trust because of that, I don't even think about it much at all.
Answer by Ati_13 at 7:52 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by admckenzie at 8:00 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
No you don't need to forgive but you do need to let it go.
Answer by beeky at 8:18 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by Babylove76 at 9:29 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by tyfry7496 at 11:10 PM on Oct. 8, 2010
Answer by Cenchan at 8:12 PM on Oct. 8, 2010