how can i convince my husband that i also work!? i am a sahm to a 22 month old and a 4 month old. i also am going to college full time. whenever we fight (which seems to be ALL the time lately) he always brings up something about him working overtime and needing all this extra sleep and that other people would do anything to have it easy like me. well i dont have it easy! i'm so mad right now at him. he said maybe i should put the kids in daycare and go get a full time job to see how much harder i would have it. sometimes i wish i did work outside the house so i could get a break. at least working elsewhere i could eat dinner in peace! i'm very grateful to be able to stay with my children, but that does not at all mean that i dont have a job! and then he doesnt even realize how much school work i do at night because he works 2nd shift and isnt here after the kids go to bed and i do my homework. what the heck can i do?Answer Question
This is one of the reasons I always maintained an off hours job while raising our children. We both worked (me PT), we both parented ALONE part of the week and we also had combined family time. IMO, my husband appreciated and respected me, because I contributed both at home and to our finances, and I had the same appreciation for him. Our 23 and 20 year old kids are bright, grounded and independent and each has a wonderful relationship with both mom and dad. Your husband clearly does not believe that you are working as hard or contributing as much as he does. In our house both parents were 100% contributors- I think both parties(man and wife) have to agree on the divided roles- One can not want a SAHM while the other prefers a working mother-you have to both agree.
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