I've heard some birth parents place in the documents they never want to be found. Later in life the adopted child searches for their birth parent depsite the wishes of the birth parent. Do you think that is fair? Hey before you answer, take a deep breath. I am asking a question. Don't beat me up about it. Some people here on Cafemom, get too emotional and not realize this is a Q& A session.
Answer by USMCwife22 at 7:15 PM on Oct. 9, 2010
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Answer by mcginnisc at 7:21 PM on Oct. 9, 2010
It is a very interesting question. It is also a very difficult question and even harder to answer since I believe there is no wrong or right answer. I think it is the right of an adoptee to know their story.....good or bad. So let's say a woman was raped, she became pregnant as a result of that rape, placed the child up for adoption, and stated clearly she never wants to be found. I certainly understand and support her decision to not be contacted. On the other hand, imagine not even knowing the circumstances of your birth and just wanting an answer as to why. As painful as it is, I believe that adoptee has the right to know. That doesn't mean a right to a relationship or even the right to make contact. Most certainly I do believe in the right to understand the circumstances to their birth and why adoption was chosen for them. Not knowing can be so much worse than the truth. I will always side with the survivors of
Answer by frogdawg at 7:23 PM on Oct. 9, 2010
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