I agree with the pp's. It sounds like there's sort of a vicious circle going on - he's anxious about holding her, because she cries when he does, she picks up on that anxiety, and she cries. So, he holds her less, gets more anxious when he does hold her, she doesn't know him as well, picks up on it, and so on, and so on.
I would do what the pp's suggested - have him nearby, talking in a calm, soothing voice to you and the baby when you're feeding her, have skin to skin contact - that's important for babies. Also, have him spend time with her where he isn't holding her - you hold her while he plays with her fingers, with her toes, talks to her, makes eye contact, etc. Have him talk in a low, soothing voice. Also, lay her on a blanket on the couch, and have him sit next to her and do the same thing (so they get some time together without Mommy there).
This will allow them to relax and get to know each other :-)
at 2:20 AM on Oct. 10, 2010