Well, I haven't had my VBAC yet so a) I can't say what is "worse" :) and b) this is just based on what I've read or heard from other women, but there are ways to avoid tearing-counter pressure, water births, no forced pushing, etc. Are you a member of the VBAC moms group here? They have lots of good info, and also having a midwife and/or doula present at your next birth may help-they tend to be more in tune with preventing things like that and avoiding unnecessary interventions, and less worried about you getting the baby out on a schedule or under "one size fits all" rules that may not apply to your birth.
And for what it's worth, I don't think any woman's reaction to the birth of her child is too strong-your feelings are valid whether they are about a c-section or a VBAC. I just think it's important to be educated about our choices and it sounds like you're considering all your options...
at 1:25 PM on Oct. 11, 2010