every time we have an argument she brings the past into it. We had a discussion a while back about it, and I said i was sorry for whatever I had in her eyes done wrong and she promised to drop it, but of course she doesn't. Her brothers swear she lived a differant life than they did. I was really abused as a child I had to live in a foster home an I dont even through it in my mothers face all the time.
Answer by AugustMidge at 2:20 PM on Oct. 11, 2010
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Answer by Srb0106 at 2:03 PM on Oct. 12, 2010
Answer by KayGia0704 at 3:02 PM on Oct. 11, 2010
First off I have to agree with ohwrite. That wasn't an apology. Second "every time we have an argument she brings the past into it. " Sounds to me like you are doing the same thing you have always done, otherwise why would you be arguing??? Think about the current arguments. Who is starting them and what are they about? What is your part in this little dance? What are you wiling to change so that this doesn't keep happening? If you weren't arguing then she wouldn't bring up the past now would she?
Answer by LoveMyDog at 12:13 PM on Oct. 12, 2010
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Answer by ria7 at 2:25 PM on Oct. 11, 2010
You both need to go to counselling together. Even though you and your sons see nothing wrong, something happened that hurt her. And it's not fair to compare your childhood to hers. It probably makes her feel like you don't think her feelings are worth your time because your problems are so much greater. It's not about her needing to "grow up" or "move on". She needs to heal. You need to help her since you caused the pain. (even if you don't think you did anything wrong)
Answer by sunshine06 at 4:07 PM on Oct. 12, 2010
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