I try my best to avoid them getting to that point, it seems simpler. If I'm going to give in and let them have something or do something, I give in right away so they don't learn that screaming and flailing around 'works' to get your own way... I pay attention to their hunger and thirst cues, so they're fed and watered regularly. I watch them for signs that they're getting frustrated or overwhelmed and change gears or activities, or pull them into my lap to give them a break...
If the tantrum happens, depending on the child, I either sit as calmly as I can with them on my lap, holding them so they don't hurt me or themsevelves, or leave them thrashing and screaming wherever they are, making sure to take anything they could damage or hurt themselves with out of the way. Some kids are further overwhelmed by touch, while others are overwhelmed by being left alone.
It helps to know your child.
at 2:44 PM on Oct. 11, 2010