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can u divorce poof your marriage?/

Ive been married before for 9 years. My ex and I became distant after we had one of our children pass away. then he started drinking and sleeping around. He cheated alot. Ive been divorced for 3 years and want to try marriage again. is there a way to divorce proof a marriage? I want to marry someone and grow old with them. never to divorce. HELP!!

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tattudemommy

Asked by tattudemommy at 10:01 PM on Oct. 11, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I don't think that you can completely divorce proof a marriage but there are steps you can do to prevent it. The main one is communication. Even if you do everything in your power to prevent it, it will sometimes still happen.

    JeremysMom

    Answer by JeremysMom at 10:05 PM on Oct. 11, 2010

  • No but you can at least try and keep it from heading down that road with a few tips...always always communicate everything with your spouse (secrets only make the other nervous and paranoid), alway say I love you, never go to bed angry, and our #1 rule never sleep seperate no matter what (no one should ever sleep on the couch or another room period)...neither of us have ever slept in seperate beds or rooms we go to bed together every night (unless its a business trip you cant go on than it's not negotiable)

    4_28_bbboy

    Answer by 4_28_bbboy at 2:50 AM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • I dont think that is possible
    LiLJeni

    Answer by LiLJeni at 2:58 AM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • Always respect each other's feelings, emotions, & self
    A11

    Answer by A11 at 3:38 AM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • Communication, supporting each other, respecting each other, make sure you take the time to express your love and appreciation for each other, stay conscious of the little things - little things he may do for you and the little things you can do for him, its so easy to overlook them and not give credit for them or to not take the chances to do them, and its the little things that make someone feel loved and appreciated.

    There's no way to 100% divorce proof your marriage, because there isn't one specific reason why people cheat or leave, there are many different reasons, and many of them aren't things you can prevent or see coming.... But trying to maintain a healthy relationship is at least a good way to start. :)
    bandgeek521

    Answer by bandgeek521 at 10:27 AM on Oct. 12, 2010

  • Pre-nuptial agreement. This has worked out for many celebrities. It's kept Michael Douglas (chronic cheater) faithful to his wife Catherine Zeta-Jones for several years now. You can put in this agreement that not only would you get alimony and child support (if a divorce happened), but he can't leave the state until the children are 18 years old, or something along those lines. A lot of them would want to pick up and leave and do something else, but this agreement would keep them faithful. At least, it would be an attempt, anyway.
    _Tam_

    Answer by _Tam_ at 11:07 AM on Oct. 12, 2010

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